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In husband matters, wife matters…

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

I have been here so many times…

A patient shows up…

Very bad…

Very bad…

Okay when a physician says a patient is bad… It is not a good thing… It is bad…

You struggle through the night…

In the morning the patient is better than he was… But not yet good to go home…

Then the normal routine…

In the morning… The man’s relatives will show up…

They don’t know what you battled or went through at night… They don’t know where this is leading to…

We want to take him to a private hospital… Your gut tells you “owashi”… Na lie…this hospital does not refer to private hospitals…

This is looking like a going to a “prayer house case”…or going to fortify against “village forces” case…

You know how it will end…

You look at the next of kin on the folder…

Hallelujah it is the wife’s name written…

You call her aside…

Explain to her everything you know in medicine… Madam plsssssssssss I am on my knees, don’t allow your husband leave here…but, your plea is not working…

You go via  another route, madam, I don’t want you to lose your husband please don’t allow them take him out of the hospital…

But you look at her face… It is obvious…she is clueless, helpless…and the one without the dough and the voice…

I can’t help it Doc… They want him out… I don’t have money of my own…

In these parts many times shishilessness may be synonymous with failure to make the right decision…

You shift to the brothers and sisters with the dough and explain everything you can explain to them…Your brother cannot leave you insist…

But they insist he must go…

You talk to the ill man… But he is not in the position to make a decision… He trusts the decision of his siblings…

The nurse on duty adds her mouth.. For where… They are becoming agitated and confrontational…

We must go… And there is nothing you can do about it Doc…

You explain to them for the last time the consequence of leaving and signing a form they are about to sign…

For where…

They sign in the 📂 folder and sign in the “sign against medical advise form”…to rub it on your face..

As the man takes a walk with his family, you know is likely going to be his last…

Few days later…

You get a call… And you are told the man is has taken a walk to eternity..

And the brothers say he died due to malaria and typhoid…Assistant doctors indeed… Innocent malaria and typhoid..

You shake your head…

And shake it again…

In other news,

When you empower your wife you empower yourself…

When you treat your wife like a rag and allow your siblings to do the same… You are actually the rag…

You are blessed if your wife had the ability to make decisions in your favour…

When your wife has no say in your matters… It will matter when you have no strength to have a say…

Your life may depend on it…

Again what do I know?

DISCLAIMER

No animal was killed in the making of this movie…

Like Manchester United winning the Champions League this season, this is purely a work of fiction.

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How Expensive are Expensive Weddings?

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By Edisemi Okpokiti

The cost for marriages is another reason for low marriages and also early broken marriages…it brings too much pressure to the equation.
Too much expectations, too much injuries in the process to accomplish, too much division already between new families who ought to be uniting, too much attention of the supposed spouse on an event than on the marriage.

Too much false hood expressed that has to be sustained, but with no basis for maintenance. Too much bad blood between supposed couples before they even start their home.

Many marriages ended on the night or morning after the wedding ceremony.

People regret night after their traditional wedding, and ask if it was worth all the tension, pressure and troubles or are visibly sad all through the wedding realising they have short changed themselves.

Love is stifled by fleshy lust of men and women for rights,privileges and inordinate desires to feel among. Many work for years to blow it one week 😭😭

Once the cost of the price to marry is reduced, the attention will be shifted to what my choice person thinks or feels and not what people think or feel; and that’s how relationships are built.

Preparation for marriage ought to be a good opportunity for people to know and get more acquainted with themselves but the pressure makes them distant from themselves, cursing, fighting and bitter at each other for their difference in priority and the family effect on them.

Father in-laws, mother in-laws , Siblings already become vouched enemies even before they know themselves.

It’s pathetic that poor families are the most expensive ones to marry from, it’s like these marriages is their visa out of poverty.

Elders have become children in their conduct and character just because of a young child’s money collected with the deceit of a priceless adventure.

Churches should adopt like the Orthodox churches now do for burials, giving specific date you must bury after death, thereby forcing hands to bury with what they have and not what they think they want.

Weddings in churches should be encouraged to be done even in midweeks and without receptions.

Young people also should stop talking of dream marriages. The women especially would shout “It is not in my turn, I’ll fall my hands”, but can’t you all see ,the men are not proposing because they are afraid and do not have what your entire village will demand? Ladies have to start discussing with their fathers and uncles and defend their husband to be.

Money spent on Marriages in this country, especially by the middle class and poor if invested could make those couples financially stable.

The steam most times is off before the team comes to field.

Many have lost even before the game starts.

Well for those who are really really well to do and I mean both not that the man is. Those whose families have more than enough to spare, then you are not stopped from your ecstasy.

If you are in relationship, and it’s not taking the next step this is a major cause. Seat with yourselves, seat with your parents and pastors and achieve your desire without destroying your desire. SELAH!

If you are a sibling or parent , please assist and clear all barriers and ensure your children and siblings don’t have this as a barrier preventing their marriage.

The age of unmarried is increasing daily to an average of 30…if this menace is not addressed …we will soon hit 35 yrs as average age of unmarried girls.

Let the wise hear, but the foolish rant…Life is a choice.

A counsel is not forced on anyone.

Edisemi Okpokiti is the Lead Faculty, The Pulpit and Lead Consultant of Rhabonni Consult Limited (A Human Capital Development Consultancy Firm). He is a trained Information Management Consultant and passionate preacher of the gospel.

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A Homemaker smells nice

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

When you are minding your business and you see ladies (not married), dissing a lady for staying at home to take care of her own kids, when she should be making shekels out there…

And end the admonition, by asking her; why her husband can’t quit his job, to take care of his children…

My own is to tell you… To mind the kind of friends you keep and not allow all kinds of people who do not know the kind of music you are playing on your earphone, cause you to dance, dance steps that appeal to them.


Do not allow people sow seeds in your life that would destroy your marriage, children, peace of mind and make you take for granted the noble and priceless work you do to raise your children.

I want to specially salute all stay at home mums and mums who work from home. God bless you loads.

I also want to hail all women who keep regular jobs but do not reduce child raising to a gender war, unnecessarily room for squabble or a burden that is impeding their progress.

Taking care of your children is not synonymous with being lazy, retrogressive or being static.

Children don’t remain children for ever…they will grow.

And the seed you sow in your children, don’t remain seeds for ever…they would either be life giving fruits or bitter fruits.

Every child deserves the best of care from both parents, if they are alive. Whether you are a father or mother, you should do all you can to impact positively in the live of the children and do it with delight.

Again what do I know?

#hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries hearword@ovundahnyeche.com

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Think, before you do

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Many people are so super charged about their wedding day, that they conveniently forget about their MARRIAGE.

Many young people plan a flawless wedding party, but are so busy or consumed about planning their wedding that they fail to discuss, life in marriage.

Many people are rushing to get married with partners that do no subscribe to their ideologies about life and marriage…”Anyway don’t bother, he or she will adjust and fall in line, in marriage”, they assure themselves.

Many people are rushing to marry, without considering the mental state (Yes, I dey tell you many people no well) of their would be partners

Many people are rushing to marry, because their partners can speak Queen’s English. Unfortunately, say say person sabi speak Queen’s or King’s English no mean say the person wey speak am na Queen or King; And say person Sabi speak English no mean say the person get sense.

Many people are rushing to marry people wey, if dem start to spark or provoke here, their remote control cannot even pause or stop them.

Many are rushing to marry people… Because hmmmmm make e no be say I miss this chance… Even when it is obvious the person is a Tower of Babel… and because they intend not to miss a chance of a lifetime, they end up in one chance.

Many are rushing to hook up… Because of say the person dem dey see just set… Even if the person behavior dey cause typhoid and malaria.

Many are rushing into marriage, thinking it can run on autopilot with no effort whatsoever from both parties…Many think romance and all the things that follow it is enough to autopilot their marriage.

You cannot plant beans and reap moi moi…

You cannot plant plantain and reap dodo…

Emmmm

You cannot drink garri and vomit fried rice and chicken…

Think, before you do.

Again what do I know?

This is not my real handwriting…

#hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries

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