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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Gen 18:19 ISV
Indeed, I’ve made myself known to him in order that he may encourage his sons and his household that is born after him to keep the way of the LORD, and to do what is right and just, so that the LORD may bring about for Abraham what he has promised.”

Thousands of years ago God had this to say about Abraham; God was so sure Abraham would encourage his children and those of his household in the way of the Lord.

Abraham, our father of faith, was a very wealthy man and of course an astute businessman. But despite all these, his love for God diffused into everyone in his household. The son of promise, Isaac, saw it from first hand that his father loved God and passed the God-chasing trait to his children’s children.

The doctor’s life can be very busy and demanding and it does not get lighter even when you climb up the ladder as there is always one more rung to climb. From medical school to internship to post internship the demand on your life does not decrease. With these demands come responsibilities which will of course mean working so hard so as to provide financially for your family.

And so many times so that we are not perceived as negligent to our duties or to meet up with our financial obligations, most of our time is spent away from the comfort of our homes.

Truly, doing well financially is very important but it is wisdom to understand that finances alone cannot build a family. Your children and indeed your family need your time, emotional support, mentorship and spiritual leadership.

Time in this case is not just the length of time but the quality of the time spent, as it is possible to spend hours with people but your heart is faraway.

Your ears are not just for listening to presenting complaints or picking up signs from patients, but also for listening to the needs of our spouse and indeed our family. Our eyes are not just for making spot diagnosis but also for looking at our family members and caring for them. You see, your children may be abused right under your nose, may be held captive by pornography and other vices but you can only see, when you truly open your eyes.

Your mouth is not just for counselling your patients but for speaking well-seasoned words to your family members, your family and not just your patients, deserve the best of you.

The recent sudden death of health workers particularly doctors is a pointer and reaffirmation to the fact that we barely res, take care of ourselves or even spend time with our families. If a doctor collapses and dies from whatever health condition which often times is precipitated by stress, the hospital will feel the loss, but the family will bear the pain and loss for a lifetime.

Conclusively, even though medicine is a ministry, our families are also ministries. The balancing of this with aim of giving ourselves optimally to both is key to living and achieving our purpose towards God and humanity.

Medicine matters, your family too.

© Wholeness 9th Edition, November 2018, Pg. 29: A Journal of the Christian Medical and Dental Association of Nigeria.

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How Expensive are Expensive Weddings?

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By Edisemi Okpokiti

The cost for marriages is another reason for low marriages and also early broken marriages…it brings too much pressure to the equation.
Too much expectations, too much injuries in the process to accomplish, too much division already between new families who ought to be uniting, too much attention of the supposed spouse on an event than on the marriage.

Too much false hood expressed that has to be sustained, but with no basis for maintenance. Too much bad blood between supposed couples before they even start their home.

Many marriages ended on the night or morning after the wedding ceremony.

People regret night after their traditional wedding, and ask if it was worth all the tension, pressure and troubles or are visibly sad all through the wedding realising they have short changed themselves.

Love is stifled by fleshy lust of men and women for rights,privileges and inordinate desires to feel among. Many work for years to blow it one week 😭😭

Once the cost of the price to marry is reduced, the attention will be shifted to what my choice person thinks or feels and not what people think or feel; and that’s how relationships are built.

Preparation for marriage ought to be a good opportunity for people to know and get more acquainted with themselves but the pressure makes them distant from themselves, cursing, fighting and bitter at each other for their difference in priority and the family effect on them.

Father in-laws, mother in-laws , Siblings already become vouched enemies even before they know themselves.

It’s pathetic that poor families are the most expensive ones to marry from, it’s like these marriages is their visa out of poverty.

Elders have become children in their conduct and character just because of a young child’s money collected with the deceit of a priceless adventure.

Churches should adopt like the Orthodox churches now do for burials, giving specific date you must bury after death, thereby forcing hands to bury with what they have and not what they think they want.

Weddings in churches should be encouraged to be done even in midweeks and without receptions.

Young people also should stop talking of dream marriages. The women especially would shout “It is not in my turn, I’ll fall my hands”, but can’t you all see ,the men are not proposing because they are afraid and do not have what your entire village will demand? Ladies have to start discussing with their fathers and uncles and defend their husband to be.

Money spent on Marriages in this country, especially by the middle class and poor if invested could make those couples financially stable.

The steam most times is off before the team comes to field.

Many have lost even before the game starts.

Well for those who are really really well to do and I mean both not that the man is. Those whose families have more than enough to spare, then you are not stopped from your ecstasy.

If you are in relationship, and it’s not taking the next step this is a major cause. Seat with yourselves, seat with your parents and pastors and achieve your desire without destroying your desire. SELAH!

If you are a sibling or parent , please assist and clear all barriers and ensure your children and siblings don’t have this as a barrier preventing their marriage.

The age of unmarried is increasing daily to an average of 30…if this menace is not addressed …we will soon hit 35 yrs as average age of unmarried girls.

Let the wise hear, but the foolish rant…Life is a choice.

A counsel is not forced on anyone.

Edisemi Okpokiti is the Lead Faculty, The Pulpit and Lead Consultant of Rhabonni Consult Limited (A Human Capital Development Consultancy Firm). He is a trained Information Management Consultant and passionate preacher of the gospel.

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A Homemaker smells nice

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

When you are minding your business and you see ladies (not married), dissing a lady for staying at home to take care of her own kids, when she should be making shekels out there…

And end the admonition, by asking her; why her husband can’t quit his job, to take care of his children…

My own is to tell you… To mind the kind of friends you keep and not allow all kinds of people who do not know the kind of music you are playing on your earphone, cause you to dance, dance steps that appeal to them.


Do not allow people sow seeds in your life that would destroy your marriage, children, peace of mind and make you take for granted the noble and priceless work you do to raise your children.

I want to specially salute all stay at home mums and mums who work from home. God bless you loads.

I also want to hail all women who keep regular jobs but do not reduce child raising to a gender war, unnecessarily room for squabble or a burden that is impeding their progress.

Taking care of your children is not synonymous with being lazy, retrogressive or being static.

Children don’t remain children for ever…they will grow.

And the seed you sow in your children, don’t remain seeds for ever…they would either be life giving fruits or bitter fruits.

Every child deserves the best of care from both parents, if they are alive. Whether you are a father or mother, you should do all you can to impact positively in the live of the children and do it with delight.

Again what do I know?

#hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries hearword@ovundahnyeche.com

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Think, before you do

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Many people are so super charged about their wedding day, that they conveniently forget about their MARRIAGE.

Many young people plan a flawless wedding party, but are so busy or consumed about planning their wedding that they fail to discuss, life in marriage.

Many people are rushing to get married with partners that do no subscribe to their ideologies about life and marriage…”Anyway don’t bother, he or she will adjust and fall in line, in marriage”, they assure themselves.

Many people are rushing to marry, without considering the mental state (Yes, I dey tell you many people no well) of their would be partners

Many people are rushing to marry, because their partners can speak Queen’s English. Unfortunately, say say person sabi speak Queen’s or King’s English no mean say the person wey speak am na Queen or King; And say person Sabi speak English no mean say the person get sense.

Many people are rushing to marry people wey, if dem start to spark or provoke here, their remote control cannot even pause or stop them.

Many are rushing to marry people… Because hmmmmm make e no be say I miss this chance… Even when it is obvious the person is a Tower of Babel… and because they intend not to miss a chance of a lifetime, they end up in one chance.

Many are rushing to hook up… Because of say the person dem dey see just set… Even if the person behavior dey cause typhoid and malaria.

Many are rushing into marriage, thinking it can run on autopilot with no effort whatsoever from both parties…Many think romance and all the things that follow it is enough to autopilot their marriage.

You cannot plant beans and reap moi moi…

You cannot plant plantain and reap dodo…

Emmmm

You cannot drink garri and vomit fried rice and chicken…

Think, before you do.

Again what do I know?

This is not my real handwriting…

#hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries

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