By Ovundah Nyeche
Adaobi is the first and only daughter of Deacon Emeka, her ears were drawn when she was about the go to school. She was told everything there was to tell and told not to join bad friends.
Well bad friends were not part of her routine, she had planned to be so committed in fellowship and she had made a vow not to allow any man not her husband to be the Chairman of her local government.
And so it happened, advances came but she turned them down.
And then it happened, fellowship ended late that night and she decided to take the lonely path home… Something kept telling her to stay back at the fellowship Secretariate or ask for brothers to escort her, but she felt there was no need for this and besides there was nothing to worry about.
Just at the middle of the lonely path, she heard footsteps, she felt the struggle and all she remembers was the struggle and a hot pain as well as bleeding.
She knew she had been raped and cried, but was too ashamed to tell anyone, for one week she kept praying for the heavenly father to uproot what he never planted.
She felt bitter and dejected and told no one about that dark night.
Prisca also was very committed in fellowship and she was beautiful and it was no surprise a lot of people hung around her. She liked Collins who was a Prayo and who liked her too and so it happened, she had gone to visit him one night in his room off campus and as though the darkness wanted to trap her, it started raining seriously and that was how it all started. She went closer, kissed him and like a fire an inferno started.
She told him to stop when his hands hit and grabbed her bosom, but his eyes were red, he would pin her down, unbuckle his trousers and exert himself on her amidst her tears and wails, but the thunderstorm and loud music seemed to drown her voice.
Sandra was not similar, it was a department party, all she could remember was the drink and like a paralyzed game, she could feel the guys take turns, but she could not remember who or remember their faces…
Katie still has nightmares, she remembers how the robbers broke down her door and not only stole her things, but stole her privacy…
Curiously they did nothing and wished this sad event away…
Adaobi is 3 months pregnant and does not know the father of her baby…
Prisca was buried last month, she died of complications from abortion…
Sandra was just discharged from the hospital, she was rushed in with tetanus…
Katie was HIV positive before the rape, she now has Hepatitis B as well.
No one prays for a rape, and by the way, males can also be raped.
But when rape happens…It is important to know there is life after rape and if you are raped you will need medical help immediately or within 72 hours (3 days), also it would be in your best interest to let trusted people know and get the police and lawyers involved.
In Nigeria it is important you visit a Government hospital immediately, here doctors would document your complaints, examine you and give you some medications, and these documentations will be very useful especially when you get the police and lawyers involved.
Here in Port Harcourt the Medecins Sans Frontieres (MSF) /Doctors Without Borders, an International Emergency Medical Organization run a free sexual and gender based violence clinic.
If survivors seek medical care within the first three days, they will benefit from free post exposure prophylaxis for HIV, prevention of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and booster shots for tetanus and Hepatitis B Virus. Including treatment of local wounds if any as well as psychological support.
You can Call 09033555455, 07058890060 or visit the Orogbum Health Centre, Ogbunabali by Garrison Bus Stop, Port Harcourt, Rivers State 24 hours a day, 7 days in a week or Eliozu Primary Health Center which runs from 7am-7pm, 7 days a week.
Disclaimer: The story above is purely a work of fiction.
Any similarity between any character in this story and any one living, dead or in between is definitely a miracle.
Again what do I know?
Dealing with stress in the face of a pandemic.
A few days ago, during a Zoom meeting, I mentioned that; ‘we are not just dealing with a pandemic, but also an infodemic’, which is an excessive amount of information concerning a problem such that the solution is made more difficult. Little was known about COVID-19, 5 months ago, but right now it is in the lips, ears and minds of a lot of people worldwide. Considering the amount of updates, especially fake news, with the level of uncertainty, with the level of loss of control, with dwindling fortunes in many quarters… Fear and anxiety is at an all-time high.
This is the period when having a cough, fever, catarrh or difficulty in breathing can increase the worry hormones. This is also a period where a lot of people are worried about their own health and the health of their loved ones especially those that are more vulnerable to COVID-19.
And to keep up to speed with the news, a lot of people are having issues with their sleep and having changes in their eating patterns. Many are having issues with concentrating, as bad news hits left, right and center. Worsening chronic health problems stare us at the face. There is also worsening of mental health conditions and increased use of alcohol, tobacco and drugs this period, as people find ways to deal with stress and fear.
So how do you cope with stress…
*Get news only from verified sources, trust me ‘e get why’. That ‘salt and pepper’ that brings out the dopamine in you, may not be good for your health. Professionals report having your health in mind, while many sources report with sensationalism and the overwhelming need to get more clicks at the back of their mind. Also it is important you get the right information, so that you may be properly equiped.
* Take breaks from watching reading or listening to news stories, including social media, it will do you a great good.
* Take care of your body needs by eating healthy; a nutritious diet will do you a whole lot of good. You will also need to exercise regularly; you can tailor-make the exercises you do, so as not to break the physical distancing rule. Get adequate sleep; sleeping well does not in any way connote laziness, a good refreshed sleep is very important. Avoid alcohol, cigarettes and drugs this period.
* This is also a time to meditate, pray, listen to wholesome/soul lifting messages, it will do you a whole lot of good.
* Learn something new this period, the fact that it looks as though things are on hold, does not in any way mean your life should be on hold. You can learn something new, but come on, it doesn’t have to be a competition.
* Give back to society in your own capacity, you may think your effort will be considered too small, but you can be a voice for someone or something this period, you can be a reason someone says thank you and wishes to live one more day.
* Do something you enjoy this period, of course something that would not put your health at risk or expose others to harm.
* Connect with others. As you know Physical distancing does not mean you should cut off from people, call your parents, call friends on phone, ask people how they are doing, care about others, and be willing to respond to other people’s need, it will also not be a sacrilege to receive help from other people. No one is a superman or superwoman. Find out how others are doing, and do not be embarrassed if people ask you how you are doing.
* Play your part to stop the spread of fake news, be careful what you share, if you are not sure and it is malicious, you may as well not share even if it sounds so sweet. Never allow fake news and rumors spread in your hands.
* We should also play our part to reduce stigma and stigmatization of people during this period.
Do have a great day ahead, we will overcome this. Let’s play our part to flatten the curve, it is in our hands.
Separating Myths from Facts #1 #COVID19
By Ovundah Nyeche
Bleach is a very effective fluid for cleaning surfaces and it can kill germs, including coronavirus on surfaces.
Alcohol can also kill coronavirus on surfaces and alcohol based sanitizers (at least 60 percent) are useful for cleaning your hands.
This does not mean you should bathe with alcohol, bleach, rub it on your body or gargle with alcohol and or bleach.
Alcohol or bleach will not kill germs in your body and can cause you harm.
Say you use water and detergent wash motor well well, no mean say you go pour am inside your fuel tank.
Say engine oil good for motor, no mean say you go pour am for motor body or fuel tank.
Please get information from the right channels like @WHO @Fmohnigeria @NCDCgov @LSMOH…
Credits: WHO, https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/coronavirus-myths-explored
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World Suicide Prevention Day 2019.
Every 10th of September the World Health Organization in collaboration with the International Association of Suicide Prevention celebrates the World Suicide Prevention Day.
This year just like last year the theme is ‘Working Together to Prevent Suicide’.
Every year about 800,000 lose their lives by suicide and this amounts to a death by suicide every 40 seconds.
25 more people attempt suicides and many more have suicidal ideations.
Of those aged 15 – 29 years, suicide accounts for the second leading cause death, topped only by Road traffic accidents.
Suicide is a public health concern and any one can be affected, and it is very preventable.
Unfortunately suicide does not end the pain but passes it to family members, friends, colleagues and others.
Last Saturday, RivEthics an initiative of the first lady of Rivers State Justice Mrs Suzzette Eberechi Nyesom-Wike, did a suicide awareness/ prevention campaign on radio and yours truly was the guest.
You can listen or download the broadcast which is in English Language and Pidgin English via the link below.
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