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All things are possible… do you believe?

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By Nnamdi Mgbemena.
Will GOD start a good work in your life and not bring it to an end? (Philippians 1 v 6). Carefully read and be blessed.

So after I got an admission to study a doctorate degree (PhD) at the James Cook University (JCU), Australia in September last year, I changed my prayers, “Father, provide all the funds I need for my studies, Let NO MAN take the glory but you”. I asked God for a scholarship cos I mean, “which Nigerian can afford paying for a PhD for 4 years in Australia, when your father is not the President of Nigeria? I made sure I enjoyed every bit of the Christmas and New Year celebrations. I shared a lot of close moments with family and my dad especially.

Before I could say “Jack Robinson”, January was there with the surge of harmattan. This was the month I was expecting the outcome of the scholarship from JCU. I was so optimistic that it was going to be successful. With outburst of overflowing faith and trust in a son I guess, my dad was even telling his close friends that I had gotten the scholarship. At that time, my phone was my girlfriend and Gmail was the apple of my eye, lol. Due to the 9-hours time difference between Nigeria and Australia, I was usually awake till 2:00 am every night. On the 16th of January (being a tuesday), I got a mail from the school and to my amazement…I DIDN’T get the scholarship. At that instance, all I wanted to do was to head to the toilet and void everything in my system. I felt so disappointed and I told God, “So this is how you have decided to embarrass me?” , but I never knew that this GOD was cooking a delicacy for me.

In faith, I wrote to the school that I wanted to continue with my admission and raise the $17,340 (#6,242,400) to pay for 1 semester (out of the 8 semesters of study) and for 4 years health insurance. Imagine raising this amount of money in January, it seemed so impossible. At that time, I didn’t want to tell my dad because the man had gone through a lot of financial expenses. I reached out to my maternal uncles who have always been there to support me and like you know everyone had lots of projects in the new year but I knew they were still going to assist.

During Church service in Teens Church (cos I was a Teens Church teacher), Church of the Resurrection, 1004 Estate, Victoria Island, Lagos, I told them I didn’t get the scholarship but God knew what He was doing. The next day, I remember taking a walk on Festival road in Victoria Island and I was weeping. I told God to show me His Grace. On Tuesday during my morning devotion, God led me to close my fasting for the day at the Church altar and so I obeyed. I got to church and laid down in front of the altar and I reminded God how His hand has been on my life since I was a child up until now. I spent 45 minutes there, worshiped God and left.

Well guess what?… the next day, during my devotion, God directed me to meet up with a couple at Church after the Bible study and tell them that I am raising money for my fees. I resisted it because I thought I was going to be tagged a beggar. I finally obeyed God and immediately after the Bible study at Church, I dropped my offering and guess who was walking toward me…the man God had told me to meet. He asked how far I had gone in raising up the money but I told him I had nothing yet. He then said that while I was giving a contribution during the Bible study, God spoke to him and told him to sow a seed of $5,000 (#1.8 million) in my life. Reflexively, I said, Sir I will pay you back and he said it was a gift from God. I broke down, I just couldn’t hold myself. That same night, 2 of my maternal uncles raised $8,000 (#2,880,000) to support me. By Thursday morning, I had $13,000 (#4,680,000).

The next day being Friday, while I was still doing my devotion, God directed me to close my fasting at church in the evening and all I should do was to give thanks. At exactly 1:35 pm, while I was taking a nap that hot afternoon, I was woken up by a call and a lady in our Church who knew I didn’t get the scholarship called and asked how I was going with the fund raising and I told her. She said that same morning, God directed her and her husband to sow a seed of $10,000 (#3,600,000) in my life. YES, You heard me…I had $23,000. I almost ran mad…When my dad and siblings heard it, everyone was crying. All I wished was to tell my mum all that was happening in my life. I was running around the house wearing only a boxer-short. You can’t imagine. I paid all the fees and was getting my documents ready for visa application. But God said, I am not done with you!!!

Few days later, a lady in Church who saw me while I was crying during the Bible study the week before called to know what happened and I told her. In excitement, she told her husband and long story cut short, she called me the next week that God told them to support me with $2,000 (#720,000). 


I know this sounds unbelievable but this is the kind of miracle my God does. I still had extra cash for my visa fees and flight fares. Afterwards, God told me to take 10% of the money I realized and sow seeds into some ministries and an orphanage. God then triggered a cascade of financial provision, that everyone who heard about my story wanted to sow into my life. The monies kept coming in both in Naira and dollars. I keep asking myself, “How can this God be so loving to me?”. Is there anything I do that others Christians do not do?

Do you know that I never mentioned to these families that I needed money but God told them?

Do you know that I had never visited these people’s houses before this whole event?

Do you know that the first 2 families that God used are not Igbos, even the third family is Igbo but I had no relationship whatsoever with them, not by marriage or blood. We just attended the same Church.

THEN I ASK YOU AGAIN, ARE YOU STILL DOUBTING THIS GOD??
I promised God I was going to write and share this testimony and more and if God leads you, please share. People need to know that God still does miracles.

Do you want to hear the testimony of my visa application and how I have been settling since I came to Australia, then wait for my next post…Have an Awesome day ahead.

Nnamdi Chidiebere Mgbemena is a Physiotherapist and a lover of God, family and friends.  God has decided to make his life a stream of testimonies and to showcase him to the world that He never fails. Nnamdi is currently doing a doctorate degree in Health in Australia and aspires to be a lecturer someday. He hopes this will create a platform for his vision of mentoring young people. He loves travelling, singing, fashion and hanging out with friends and family.

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    Tamie

    June 14, 2018 at 8:27 am

    Awesome!
    This God is too good oh!

    I wanted to raise a specific amount of money for something and knew I didn’t have it and would not met up even if I wanted to save towards it. I still put up the amount on my vision board.

    I knew I could ask a couple of people but didn’t want to as it was the new year and people have their own issues.

    Long story cut short, I ended up with exactly that amount with 95% coming from unexpected quarters.
    I just bless God for provision.

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      Ovundah

      June 19, 2018 at 3:37 pm

      To God be the glory

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    uju

    June 16, 2018 at 1:57 pm

    Your testimony is an inspiration to me as I await God’s grace.

    Thank you for sharing.

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      Ovundah

      June 19, 2018 at 3:37 pm

      Thanks for your feedback… God is faithful and never late.

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Favouritism in Parenting

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By Dr Nimi Stephanie Ekere

Favouritism in parenting simply means preferring one child over another or the rest of the children.
Studies have shown that a large population of parents display consistent favouritism towards one child over another.

In a recent study done titled ‘The sibling effect’, the author affirms that 70% of fathers showed favouritism to a child while 65% of mothers displayed favouritism to one child. Another study has it that fathers preferred their female children while yet another study in Nigeria showed that male children were shown some form of preference over their female counterparts.

The reasons for favouritism include:

*Birth order– First and last borns are seen to be shown favouritism over their siblings.

*Gender : Some people show preference to a particular sex or gender especially if that gender was so desired.

*Children with special needs or ailments are understandably given a lot of attention which may not necessarily mean favouritism.

*Children who are affectionate would naturally attract same kind of emotions from their parents; talking about the law of reciprocity.

* Circumstances surrounding the birth: This includes, a child who was waited patiently for,a child born in old age e.g. Jacob loved Joseph because he was a child born at his old age and his mother, Rachel was his actually preferred wife until he was deceived to marry her sister.

Positive effects on the other siblings:
It confers some form of independence to the unfavoured children because they are almost indirectly taught independence while the favoured child cannot stand on her own without her parents and so cannot face the challenges life brings.

Negative effects on the other siblings:
*Conflict and disunity in the family.

*Hatred for the favoured child and even the parents.

*Sibling rivalry.

*Low self esteem.

*Poor communication between parents and children.

*Depression in adulthood.

*Suicide in extreme cases.

The negative effect on the favoured child is that sometimes,he expects same gestures from outsiders and if their unrealistic expectations are not met, it leaves them depressed.
They are poorly behaved because they get away with a lot of things.

Solution:
*Spend time with each child individually.

*Affirm and reaffirm their talents,strengths and interests.

*Celebrate achievements and milestones.

*Avoid unhealthy competition in your family.

In summary, favouritism in parenting dates back to the bible days as seen in the case of Rebekah who preferred Jacob to Esau and Isaac,on the other hand, preferred Esau to Jacob.

The consequences were deleterious and sadly outlived them.

Favouritism is human nature, it is sometimes inevitable but how parents and wards handle it is what matters.

While I do not encourage this act, I know that it might be an exercise in futility to tell a parent to drop the favouritism mantra. If you choose to have a favourite, please handle it with a great deal of wisdom and utmost maturity.

Know the love language of your child and profusely shower him with affection,so that you don’t end up creating unnecessary rivalry,bitterness and strife between your children.

Remember that you may also not be spared as they might eventually hate or resent you for loving them less than they deserved.

#effectiveparenting# #gettingitright

Dr Nimi Stephanie Ekere is a wife, mother and Family Physician. She enjoys writing, reading and attending to her patients. She is a life coach and teacher, who is passionate about children and young people walking in the right course and path to achieve their full potential.

Her Foundation, Ekom Charity Foundation mentors young people and also cares for the less privileged.

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How Expensive are Expensive Weddings?

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By Edisemi Okpokiti

The cost for marriages is another reason for low marriages and also early broken marriages…it brings too much pressure to the equation.
Too much expectations, too much injuries in the process to accomplish, too much division already between new families who ought to be uniting, too much attention of the supposed spouse on an event than on the marriage.

Too much false hood expressed that has to be sustained, but with no basis for maintenance. Too much bad blood between supposed couples before they even start their home.

Many marriages ended on the night or morning after the wedding ceremony.

People regret night after their traditional wedding, and ask if it was worth all the tension, pressure and troubles or are visibly sad all through the wedding realising they have short changed themselves.

Love is stifled by fleshy lust of men and women for rights,privileges and inordinate desires to feel among. Many work for years to blow it one week 😭😭

Once the cost of the price to marry is reduced, the attention will be shifted to what my choice person thinks or feels and not what people think or feel; and that’s how relationships are built.

Preparation for marriage ought to be a good opportunity for people to know and get more acquainted with themselves but the pressure makes them distant from themselves, cursing, fighting and bitter at each other for their difference in priority and the family effect on them.

Father in-laws, mother in-laws , Siblings already become vouched enemies even before they know themselves.

It’s pathetic that poor families are the most expensive ones to marry from, it’s like these marriages is their visa out of poverty.

Elders have become children in their conduct and character just because of a young child’s money collected with the deceit of a priceless adventure.

Churches should adopt like the Orthodox churches now do for burials, giving specific date you must bury after death, thereby forcing hands to bury with what they have and not what they think they want.

Weddings in churches should be encouraged to be done even in midweeks and without receptions.

Young people also should stop talking of dream marriages. The women especially would shout “It is not in my turn, I’ll fall my hands”, but can’t you all see ,the men are not proposing because they are afraid and do not have what your entire village will demand? Ladies have to start discussing with their fathers and uncles and defend their husband to be.

Money spent on Marriages in this country, especially by the middle class and poor if invested could make those couples financially stable.

The steam most times is off before the team comes to field.

Many have lost even before the game starts.

Well for those who are really really well to do and I mean both not that the man is. Those whose families have more than enough to spare, then you are not stopped from your ecstasy.

If you are in relationship, and it’s not taking the next step this is a major cause. Seat with yourselves, seat with your parents and pastors and achieve your desire without destroying your desire. SELAH!

If you are a sibling or parent , please assist and clear all barriers and ensure your children and siblings don’t have this as a barrier preventing their marriage.

The age of unmarried is increasing daily to an average of 30…if this menace is not addressed …we will soon hit 35 yrs as average age of unmarried girls.

Let the wise hear, but the foolish rant…Life is a choice.

A counsel is not forced on anyone.

Edisemi Okpokiti is the Lead Faculty, The Pulpit and Lead Consultant of Rhabonni Consult Limited (A Human Capital Development Consultancy Firm). He is a trained Information Management Consultant and passionate preacher of the gospel.

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Opinions Today, Pinions Tomorrow

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Nigeria is full of drama and the growing internet penetration and social media usage amplifies this daily. Individuals and even corporations are constantly being sucked into this pool of daily drama.

My thought is simple, if you must be an active and opinionated participant in every raging conversation on the internet, ensure you do so from the place of thought and principles and not an emotional rush, no matter how logical it might sound at the moment.

The internet archives, it never forgets.

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If you stand for a wrong today and months after try to go against that wrong because this time, you’re emotional towards one party involved, it means that you lack principle in the first place. Because the internet never forgets, people will call your bluff while referring to precedence.

It is very easy to glide into contradiction and inconsistency when you always have to offer opinion or hard stance not backed by principles.

Before you tweet, think. Before you post, pause to ponder.

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I have a particular friend who knows me so well that, in my absence, he can literally tell you what my position will be on any given issue even without hearing from me. Same for him. This is because -not to sound saintly- we’ve been consistent in our thought pattern over a long period of time. Our positions on things are always not popular but there’s been a pattern and we’ve been consistent.

One last thing,

In a low trust society like Nigeria, it’s important that you’re consistent in character and in principles. It helps when those with less knowledge of you bring up disparaging commentary of your person.

Last year, I had a fall out with a client and someone asked me, “What if this client decides to give a negative feedback on referrals?” My response was simple, my disagreement is not out of bad character but out of principle that binds a contractual relationship. Of every one client relationship that goes wrong, there are 9 others that will stand vehemently for me, because of character and precedence.

You can say I am not cheap when it comes to billing for my services and I’d agree, but I do not know that I am a cheat or dubious in character, for this I am grateful for my upbringing and can raise my shoulder anywhere to this.

If I disagree vehemently with a friend or a client, it’s mostly not out of bad character but out of principle. I rarely do shift from my position, either I just want to let you have your way and move on or I’m deeply convinced that my position is wrong, which doesn’t happen instantaneously either. I have to slowly be convinced on facts and principles that support that position, it’s the reason people say I’m stubborn.

But I am not.

Perez Tigidam is a brand management consultant and media entrepreneur based in Nigeria. He runs one of Nigeria’s foremost brand consultancy and design firms Arden & Newton Ltd and doubles up as the user experience and content strategy team lead at TheNerve Africa.

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