LIE #14: ALL MEN ARE THE SAME.
First of all, I do not know who coined the phrase, “All men are the same.” This erroneous notion has been flying around for ages. Many young men grow up hearing this and feel it is natural for men to cheat, have multiple girlfriends without any of the girls knowing they aren’t his only girlfriend, make promises they do not intend to keep and then date girls only to dump them after sleeping with them.Ironically, many girls grow up having this mindset and making excuses for men.
Sometime ago, while resting in the doctors’ lounge of the hospital I work, a lady said the afore-mentioned phrase. I would have kept quiet and minded my business, but because I knew her personally, I had to address the issue being raised.
I wanted to ask her how many men she had come in contact with, in order to validate her claim. I also wanted to ask her a question based on genetics: “Lady, can you tell me the gene that codes for cheating in men and tell me the exact loci on the chromosome? Also, where is the exact lobe of the brain
that is peculiar to all men that makes them to cheat?” But because I would have caused more confusion than proffer a solution, I decided to alter the question.
I simply asked, “Where do you see motorcycles most in Port
Harcourt?” “Aluu Community, near the University of Port Harcourt,”
was her response. “Beautiful. Do you see motorcycles riding around the
Government Residential Area (GRA)?” “No, Sir,” she responded.
“So, young lady, would it be right to go to Aluu, see motorcycles plying that route and then conclude that motorcycles are the major means of transportation in Rivers State, Nigeria?” “No,” she said. “Okay. Would it also be right to go to the GRA where there is a ban on motorcycles, and conclude that we have no motorcycles in Rivers State?” She replied, “No.”
Before finally returning to what I was doing, I told her, “The issue may simply be that you are in Aluu and all you are seeing are motorcycles. Please come to GRA.”
I have a lot of married friends and I do not know any of them who cheats on his wife. One man, one wife; no side-chicks and no side-chick discussion.
God does not have separate standards of fidelity for men and women. God does not frown at ladies when they engage in sexual immorality and smile on the throne when men do the same. When God said “Flee youthful lusts,” He was not referring to only females.
His standard is the same, so stop hiding behind those wrong stereotypes, like “all men are the same” and “I cannot help myself.”
1 Timothy 4:12 WNT
Let no one think slightingly of you because you are a young man;
but in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, be an example for
your fellow Christians to imitate.
Be a real man; stand firm and be an example for what is right.
© Sex: The Naked Truth, Ovundah Nyeche, Pg 63-65, 2018.
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Two can walk together forever…
By Ovundah Nyeche.
In all thy getting, don’t break your marriage or enter marital problems because of things you read on social media.
All these you are so brave, na so, if it is me… I will not take it… Nonsense man or woman… If he does it, I will do him/her back… Men and women must be put in their place, meniscus, womeniscus, et al… May not be the best for you.
It is also important to note that, people who pour and fire, fire on social media, may not be what they fire in real life…also it is important not to build your marriage on templates that may be faulty.
Like football, great coaches, have a plan or tactics to use, but adapt with the game at hand… Great coaches know when to go for possession and when to concede possession…they know goals and not stats win matches.
As a Christian, my allegiance is to the Word of God, and it guides my relationship with my spouse.
You ginger all the ginger and the word of God, reminds you, O boy, you no try, O boy just look your face for mirror, see that plank wey dey your eyes… 😂 😂 😂 And boom you want to drag leg… But the word of God is not your mate… And you obey and get back your peace…
Like I tell those I tell… Marriage is not war, it is not male vs female… It is not pishim pishim … But a deliberate union, where a man and his wife makes a decision together surmount any challenge and be all what God has destined for them …
If both of you agree to #hearword and both bring 💯 into the union, not 50-50, both of you are vulnerable and open to yourself in your union and ditch the “do you know who I am” or “I did you a favour by marrying you” 😂 😂 😂 and are willing to make your marriage work irrespective of the normal stresses of the relationship… Where both of you look out for the good of your spouse and are willing to walk and work it out to success…
Marriage is a full time job… Don’t allow social media deceive you, it requires investment and thought in the direction you wish it to take… marriage is a wonderful thing…
Everyday airplanes take off and land… Ironically it is the planes that crash or have turbulence that make news… Everyday cars go on long distance journeys and arrive, but it is those that crash or have a mishap that make news…Ships also leave ports and arrive at their destinations, but again, disaster makes more news.
Don’t allow crashes define or determine the mood of your journey…who goes for a journey and is preoccupied about a crash.
It will work out, it is working out… If you are not hearing word in any area of your life be it anger, infidelity, violence, et al … Go and seek for help and don’t commonize it… Get accountable… Invest in knowledge…fix self… Do all you can to make your marriage work.
#selah #hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries
Hear Word, from a book reviewer’s eyes…
By Grace Ngozi Onyebuolise.
A subject can be difficult but if your teacher knows how to use humor and is really good at what he or she does, learning that subject would be easy.
It is one reason I can’t forget my teacher who taught me physics in secondary school.
He could teach, he was funny and ensured we learnt each topic very well.
Real life issues and making choices can be tough. We seem to know the right decision to make but are lured to do the opposite because we find it really pleasurable and being reactive doesn’t require so much energy when compared to being proactive and getting our emotions under control.
In simple, funny, sarcastic, rhetorical but yet beautiful short stories, Doctor Ovundah Nyeche takes us through life lessons on various topics; relationship, sex matters, marriage, failure, personal development, health, character development, friendship and many more.
This book seems small but laced with beautiful short stories that leaves you smiling and telling yourself, “This word enter.”
Most stories are drawn from his personal experiences like the ones found on Pages 69 and 70 titled, Equip Yourself and More Than Papers. While some, like ‘Legend Of The Chaser’ are fictional.
Because of the size of the book, your 8year old may think it’s a book they can read but please, don’t oblige them yet. They are not yet strong to handle stories like Legend Of The Chaser. 😂😂😂😂.
This work is beautifully written. You would find yourself postponing and reading a chapter at a time because of the author’s creative writing style but please, read to the end as a repeat still feels like a first read.
My most enjoyable part of the reading was the chapter that opened my eyes to see this scripture “We know no man after the flesh” in a better and new light.
And like my picture below, the world would present many things to you that would be filled paradox , but choose to Hear Word and zoom in to read a tiny book filled with wisdom to help your life choices.
I am also proud to announce that this wonderful book got it’s creative cover from the amazing designer, Onuora Onianwa
and he can make one for you if you are writing or planning to write a book.
Book Title : Hear Word.
To purchase this book, please do connect with its author, Ovundah Nyeche on Facebook or click the link below if you wish to get a copy delivered to you anywhere in Nigeria.
I just read my copy of Hear Word.
By Dr. Adimea Obed.
I decided to practically Hear Word this morning.
My Chief Dr. Ovundah Nyeche ‘finished work’ in this sensational wisdom of the century wrapped in short relatable stories. All in one book
Mixed with enough humour in his characteristic manner that will leave your laughing and learning.
The book contains too much knowledge for the ‘shikini’ money it goes for.
It is divided into 6 parts made up of many short sweet stories.
1)Love sex and marriage ( 17 stories)
2)Leaders of tomorrow (9 stories)
3)Learn, Unlearn, Relearn. ( 4 stories).
4)Pause, Think and Do ( 6 Stories)
5)Social Media etiquette ( 6 stories)
6)Where there is a Doctor. (10 stories)
Tell me why you should not read this book this year?
As a doctor that I am, I couldn’t help but notice an interesting Story in part 6.
Topic: Diabetes and power failure… can you imagine😂? You must read that story oh.
Final thought there was. It is only wise to listen to your doctor. If you know you will eventually go to the hospital, then just go there first.
This book shall win awards. Note that I told you that first.
Get you own copy from Dr Ovundah Nyeche, too much wisdom.
When OVD speaks l listen.
PS To get your paperback copy of Hear Word delivered to you any where in Nigeria you can click the link below.
Or get it on the Okadabooks app https://okadabooks.com/book/about/hear_word/28177
Or via amazon for kindle readers on https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07CL4DH4X
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