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You cannot collect 3 points from your teammate

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Years ago, I went to see my pastor in his office for something and then out of the blues, he asked me how my marriage was doing? Well then I was still fresh in the marriage, driven by you know na…new couple syndrome and he said something that stuck.

In his usual style he casually said ” Offences will come, make sure you settle any problem you have with your wife before you go to bed everyday, never allow any issue remain unresolved till the next morning, else it will grow hands and legs and a head and a body”.

And true to his word offences came and are still coming…sometimes I have played the “Don’t you know I am a man card” or “Na you cause am, you must apologise first” and as always rather than resolve issues, this has poured fuel on these issues and caused a needless inferno.

Many times, I have hurt myself by trying to get even and collect a needless #3points, truth is that you cannot collect 3 points from your team mate, a house divided against itself can’t stand.

I don’t know how it works, but obeying the Bible saves us from a lot of heart aches…I don’t know who I am writing to but save yourself from unnecessary stress and forgive…“don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry…let it go.

The bitterness and wrath is not worth it, if you go to be with the Lord today, or if Jesus comes right now, what excuse would you give for holding onto offence.

And why we are still at this, take a look at this….” In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God’s gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.”

This scripture keeps staring at me…Don’t let unresolved differences hinder and interfere with your prayers. Many times we are the enemies we pray against.

Fight for your marriage, husbands fight for your marriage, husbands give it your best shot, don’t let the devil conquer your home, don’t let him control your home…He longs to see you have a broken home.

May God bless our homes and make our children see what love looks like from the home front.

Don’t make your children look for love from all the wrong place…Don’t make your children find it difficult to appreciate “God the father”…Love your wife, love their mother.

Love…Change for good…Apologise…Forgive…Let go

#MayGodblessourhomes #JesusHome #HearWord #HearWordSeries

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How Expensive are Expensive Weddings?

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By Edisemi Okpokiti

The cost for marriages is another reason for low marriages and also early broken marriages…it brings too much pressure to the equation.
Too much expectations, too much injuries in the process to accomplish, too much division already between new families who ought to be uniting, too much attention of the supposed spouse on an event than on the marriage.

Too much false hood expressed that has to be sustained, but with no basis for maintenance. Too much bad blood between supposed couples before they even start their home.

Many marriages ended on the night or morning after the wedding ceremony.

People regret night after their traditional wedding, and ask if it was worth all the tension, pressure and troubles or are visibly sad all through the wedding realising they have short changed themselves.

Love is stifled by fleshy lust of men and women for rights,privileges and inordinate desires to feel among. Many work for years to blow it one week 😭😭

Once the cost of the price to marry is reduced, the attention will be shifted to what my choice person thinks or feels and not what people think or feel; and that’s how relationships are built.

Preparation for marriage ought to be a good opportunity for people to know and get more acquainted with themselves but the pressure makes them distant from themselves, cursing, fighting and bitter at each other for their difference in priority and the family effect on them.

Father in-laws, mother in-laws , Siblings already become vouched enemies even before they know themselves.

It’s pathetic that poor families are the most expensive ones to marry from, it’s like these marriages is their visa out of poverty.

Elders have become children in their conduct and character just because of a young child’s money collected with the deceit of a priceless adventure.

Churches should adopt like the Orthodox churches now do for burials, giving specific date you must bury after death, thereby forcing hands to bury with what they have and not what they think they want.

Weddings in churches should be encouraged to be done even in midweeks and without receptions.

Young people also should stop talking of dream marriages. The women especially would shout “It is not in my turn, I’ll fall my hands”, but can’t you all see ,the men are not proposing because they are afraid and do not have what your entire village will demand? Ladies have to start discussing with their fathers and uncles and defend their husband to be.

Money spent on Marriages in this country, especially by the middle class and poor if invested could make those couples financially stable.

The steam most times is off before the team comes to field.

Many have lost even before the game starts.

Well for those who are really really well to do and I mean both not that the man is. Those whose families have more than enough to spare, then you are not stopped from your ecstasy.

If you are in relationship, and it’s not taking the next step this is a major cause. Seat with yourselves, seat with your parents and pastors and achieve your desire without destroying your desire. SELAH!

If you are a sibling or parent , please assist and clear all barriers and ensure your children and siblings don’t have this as a barrier preventing their marriage.

The age of unmarried is increasing daily to an average of 30…if this menace is not addressed …we will soon hit 35 yrs as average age of unmarried girls.

Let the wise hear, but the foolish rant…Life is a choice.

A counsel is not forced on anyone.

Edisemi Okpokiti is the Lead Faculty, The Pulpit and Lead Consultant of Rhabonni Consult Limited (A Human Capital Development Consultancy Firm). He is a trained Information Management Consultant and passionate preacher of the gospel.

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A Homemaker smells nice

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

When you are minding your business and you see ladies (not married), dissing a lady for staying at home to take care of her own kids, when she should be making shekels out there…

And end the admonition, by asking her; why her husband can’t quit his job, to take care of his children…

My own is to tell you… To mind the kind of friends you keep and not allow all kinds of people who do not know the kind of music you are playing on your earphone, cause you to dance, dance steps that appeal to them.


Do not allow people sow seeds in your life that would destroy your marriage, children, peace of mind and make you take for granted the noble and priceless work you do to raise your children.

I want to specially salute all stay at home mums and mums who work from home. God bless you loads.

I also want to hail all women who keep regular jobs but do not reduce child raising to a gender war, unnecessarily room for squabble or a burden that is impeding their progress.

Taking care of your children is not synonymous with being lazy, retrogressive or being static.

Children don’t remain children for ever…they will grow.

And the seed you sow in your children, don’t remain seeds for ever…they would either be life giving fruits or bitter fruits.

Every child deserves the best of care from both parents, if they are alive. Whether you are a father or mother, you should do all you can to impact positively in the live of the children and do it with delight.

Again what do I know?

#hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries hearword@ovundahnyeche.com

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Think, before you do

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Many people are so super charged about their wedding day, that they conveniently forget about their MARRIAGE.

Many young people plan a flawless wedding party, but are so busy or consumed about planning their wedding that they fail to discuss, life in marriage.

Many people are rushing to get married with partners that do no subscribe to their ideologies about life and marriage…”Anyway don’t bother, he or she will adjust and fall in line, in marriage”, they assure themselves.

Many people are rushing to marry, without considering the mental state (Yes, I dey tell you many people no well) of their would be partners

Many people are rushing to marry, because their partners can speak Queen’s English. Unfortunately, say say person sabi speak Queen’s or King’s English no mean say the person wey speak am na Queen or King; And say person Sabi speak English no mean say the person get sense.

Many people are rushing to marry people wey, if dem start to spark or provoke here, their remote control cannot even pause or stop them.

Many are rushing to marry people… Because hmmmmm make e no be say I miss this chance… Even when it is obvious the person is a Tower of Babel… and because they intend not to miss a chance of a lifetime, they end up in one chance.

Many are rushing to hook up… Because of say the person dem dey see just set… Even if the person behavior dey cause typhoid and malaria.

Many are rushing into marriage, thinking it can run on autopilot with no effort whatsoever from both parties…Many think romance and all the things that follow it is enough to autopilot their marriage.

You cannot plant beans and reap moi moi…

You cannot plant plantain and reap dodo…

Emmmm

You cannot drink garri and vomit fried rice and chicken…

Think, before you do.

Again what do I know?

This is not my real handwriting…

#hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries

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