By Ovundah Nyeche.
Years ago, I went to see my pastor in his office for something and then out of the blues, he asked me how my marriage was doing? Well then I was still fresh in the marriage, driven by you know na…new couple syndrome and he said something that stuck.
In his usual style he casually said ” Offences will come, make sure you settle any problem you have with your wife before you go to bed everyday, never allow any issue remain unresolved till the next morning, else it will grow hands and legs and a head and a body”.
And true to his word offences came and are still coming…sometimes I have played the “Don’t you know I am a man card” or “Na you cause am, you must apologise first” and as always rather than resolve issues, this has poured fuel on these issues and caused a needless inferno.
Many times, I have hurt myself by trying to get even and collect a needless #3points, truth is that you cannot collect 3 points from your team mate, a house divided against itself can’t stand.
I don’t know how it works, but obeying the Bible saves us from a lot of heart aches…I don’t know who I am writing to but save yourself from unnecessary stress and forgive…“don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry…let it go.
The bitterness and wrath is not worth it, if you go to be with the Lord today, or if Jesus comes right now, what excuse would you give for holding onto offence.
And why we are still at this, take a look at this….” In the same way you husbands must live with your wives with the proper understanding that they are more delicate than you. Treat them with respect, because they also will receive, together with you, God’s gift of life. Do this so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.”
This scripture keeps staring at me…Don’t let unresolved differences hinder and interfere with your prayers. Many times we are the enemies we pray against.
Fight for your marriage, husbands fight for your marriage, husbands give it your best shot, don’t let the devil conquer your home, don’t let him control your home…He longs to see you have a broken home.
May God bless our homes and make our children see what love looks like from the home front.
Don’t make your children look for love from all the wrong place…Don’t make your children find it difficult to appreciate “God the father”…Love your wife, love their mother.
Love…Change for good…Apologise…Forgive…Let go
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