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Marry me or else I die




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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Eka is currently under attack from her home, she is twenty nine years old. Almost all her friends are getting married. She has loads and loads of “ashoebi”. Six months ago as she was entering her room after one of these weddings her mum confronted her, asking her where she was coming from. “Jennifer’s wedding” she replied and then her mum started raining strong words on her. “ When will your turn ever come… every Saturday you are away for one wedding or the other, when will people come for your own wedding… All my friends are inviting me for their children’s wedding, when will I invite them for yours. All your friends are getting married, even those that are your junior already have three children”

These words can’t seem to get off her head. She is in a relationship with Mike, well will we call this a relationship? Mike uses abusive words on her, the last time she tried correcting Mike, he landed some focused slaps on her cheeks. He apologized though and he always apologizes, but somehow returns to type after these apologies. The words of her mum still rings strong in her head. She has talked to her mum about Mike, who now drops her off at home. Her mum tells her she can change Mike and if she lets Mike go, no one else will marry her.

Eba is a young rich lady, yeah an independent lady. She pays her bills, but has not been too lucky with guys. She met Dyke months ago. He is so caring but he has no job and does not seem bothered he has nothing doing. In fact ever since they met, he stays most times in her place. He keeps the house warm while she goes to work. He collects money from her for his personal effects, he has no plans to work.

She is thirty four years old, should she let him slip off her hands? It feels so real with him, even if her friends call him a leech. All her friends are married and she avoids her parents, as they always remind her of the fact she is unmarried even though all her younger ones are married. Dyke talked about marriage few weeks ago. Will it be a bad idea, if she gives him the money for her bride price and wedding? Who would know? It will be her best kept secret and she will still get to keep her man.

Elma is in love, she met Duke two years ago and he swept her off her feet. Duke is so wealthy. Almost all she has, has Duke imprinted on it. She could count the things she has bought with her money this past two years. Only in the past two years she has caught Duke pants down with at least ten different women. Well he always apologizes and is repentant for few months after which he continues from where he stops.

Her mum who is a beneficiary of Duke’s largesse has always told her “men will be men, and men are polygamous in nature” (wonder what that ever means). Well before Duke, she had a boyfriend called Dike, who was still job hunting. She sacked him after catching him making out with her best friend Lucy. Well for her Duke “it’s not the same” she says. These “Amalakites” always throw themselves at him, it’s their fault not his, they will never allow him to rest, even when he runs away from them. “Money talking” Duke just proposed to her and promised to turn a new leaf. “Marriage will change him” she said to herself.

Ella just met Pike, well they just met two months ago and it was love at first sight. Pike is a breath of fresh air. She has never met anyone like him before.  He just proposed to her. Her mum has told her to slow down things. In fact they have started talking about marriage. Her mum asked her about Pike’s family, work and some basic questions and Ella does not have the answers to these questions. Her only answer is, “We are in love, do all these secondary things matter?” She even told her mum if she does not marry Pike she would kill herself.

A tale of four ladies on a path, well while marriage is a beautiful thing, being single is not a disease or a curse. Also no one gets an Olympic gold medal for marrying. Marriage is not for “Pepper them” to rub on the faces of those not married.

Marriage is not an emergency, “If we don’t marry now, we perish”, Marriage is not a competition, “My friends are married therefore I must get married as well and now”.

It’s a path, a journey, a deliberate well thought of and considered journey. An enjoyable experience, a journey where both hands must be on deck.It is a full time job.

Think, ask questions, expect answers, watch, pray before you say I do.

‪#‎Godblessourhomes  #HearWord #HearWordSeries

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Family Circle

Two can walk together forever…





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By Ovundah Nyeche.

In all thy getting, don’t break your marriage or enter marital problems because of things you read on social media.

All these you are so brave, na so, if it is me… I will not take it… Nonsense man or woman… If he does it, I will do him/her back… Men and women must be put in their place, meniscus, womeniscus, et al… May not be the best for you.

It is also important to note that, people who pour and fire, fire on social media, may not be what they fire in real life…also it is important not to build your marriage on templates that may be faulty.

Like football, great coaches, have a plan or tactics to use, but adapt with the game at hand… Great coaches know when to go for possession and when to concede possession…they know goals and not stats win matches.

As a Christian, my allegiance is to the Word of God, and it guides my relationship with my spouse.

You ginger all the ginger and the word of God, reminds you, O boy, you no try, O boy just look your face for mirror, see that plank wey dey your eyes… 😂 😂 😂 And boom you want to drag leg… But the word of God is not your mate… And you obey and get back your peace…

Like I tell those I tell… Marriage is not war, it is not male vs female… It is not pishim pishim … But a deliberate union, where a man and his wife makes a decision together surmount any challenge and be all what God has destined for them …

If both of you agree to #hearword and both bring 💯 into the union, not 50-50, both of you are vulnerable and open to yourself in your union and ditch the “do you know who I am” or “I did you a favour by marrying you” 😂 😂 😂 and are willing to make your marriage work irrespective of the normal stresses of the relationship… Where both of you look out for the good of your spouse and are willing to walk and work it out to success…

Marriage is a full time job… Don’t allow social media deceive you, it requires investment and thought in the direction you wish it to take… marriage is a wonderful thing…

Everyday airplanes take off and land… Ironically it is the planes that crash or have turbulence that make news… Everyday cars go on long distance journeys and arrive, but it is those that crash or have a mishap that make news…Ships also leave ports and arrive at their destinations, but again, disaster makes more news.
Don’t allow crashes define or determine the mood of your journey…who goes for a journey and is preoccupied about a crash.

It will work out, it is working out… If you are not hearing word in any area of your life be it anger, infidelity, violence, et al … Go and seek for help and don’t commonize it… Get accountable… Invest in knowledge…fix self… Do all you can to make your marriage work.

#selah #hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries

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Hear Word, from a book reviewer’s eyes…





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By Grace Ngozi Onyebuolise.

A subject can be difficult but if your teacher knows how to use humor and is really good at what he or she does, learning that subject would be easy.

It is one reason I can’t forget my teacher who taught me physics in secondary school.
He could teach, he was funny and ensured we learnt each topic very well.

Real life issues and making choices can be tough. We seem to know the right decision to make but are lured to do the opposite because we find it really pleasurable and being reactive doesn’t require so much energy when compared to being proactive and getting our emotions under control.

In simple, funny, sarcastic, rhetorical but yet beautiful short stories, Doctor Ovundah Nyeche takes us through life lessons on various topics; relationship, sex matters, marriage, failure, personal development, health, character development, friendship and many more.

This book seems small but laced with beautiful short stories that leaves you smiling and telling yourself, “This word enter.”

Most stories are drawn from his personal experiences like the ones found on Pages 69 and 70 titled, Equip Yourself and More Than Papers. While some, like ‘Legend Of The Chaser’ are fictional.

Because of the size of the book, your 8year old may think it’s a book they can read but please, don’t oblige them yet. They are not yet strong to handle stories like Legend Of The Chaser. 😂😂😂😂.

This work is beautifully written. You would find yourself postponing and reading a chapter at a time because of the author’s creative writing style but please, read to the end as a repeat still feels like a first read.

My most enjoyable part of the reading was the chapter that opened my eyes to see this scripture “We know no man after the flesh” in a better and new light.

And like my picture below, the world would present many things to you that would be filled paradox , but choose to Hear Word and zoom in to read a tiny book filled with wisdom to help your life choices.

I am also proud to announce that this wonderful book got it’s creative cover from the amazing designer, Onuora Onianwa
and he can make one for you if you are writing or planning to write a book.

Book Title : Hear Word.

To purchase this book, please do connect with its author, Ovundah Nyeche on Facebook or click the link below if you wish to get a copy delivered to you anywhere in Nigeria.


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I just read my copy of Hear Word.





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By Dr. Adimea Obed.

I decided to practically Hear Word this morning.

My Chief Dr. Ovundah Nyeche ‘finished work’ in this sensational wisdom of the century wrapped in short relatable stories. All in one book

Mixed with enough humour in his characteristic manner that will leave your laughing and learning.

The book contains too much knowledge for the ‘shikini’ money it goes for.

It is divided into 6 parts made up of many short sweet stories.

1)Love sex and marriage ( 17 stories)
2)Leaders of tomorrow (9 stories)
3)Learn, Unlearn, Relearn. ( 4 stories).
4)Pause, Think and Do ( 6 Stories)
5)Social Media etiquette ( 6 stories)
6)Where there is a Doctor. (10 stories)

Tell me why you should not read this book this year?

As a doctor that I am, I couldn’t help but notice an interesting Story in part 6.
Chapter 48
Topic: Diabetes and power failure… can you imagine😂? You must read that story oh.

Final thought there was. It is only wise to listen to your doctor. If you know you will eventually go to the hospital, then just go there first.

This book shall win awards. Note that I told you that first.

Get you own copy from Dr Ovundah Nyeche, too much wisdom.

When OVD speaks l listen.

#HearWord #OVD.

PS To get your paperback copy of Hear Word delivered to you any where in Nigeria you can click the link below.

Or get it on the Okadabooks app

Or via amazon for kindle readers on

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