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Home or War Front, Garden or Refuse Dump???

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Months ago, I visited a mentor of mine, to learn at his feet and he took me to his garden to show me how his cucumbers were doing. The sun was in its full glory, the heat from the sun was scorching but as he opened the gate to his garden, it was as though we were entering a different world all together.

If I did not know better I would have thought he had an air conditioner installed in the garden. I saw giant sized cucumbers which we harvested and cucumbers at different levels of development. The environment was also very serene and devoid of the noise outside. I remember him squatting to uproot weed, nothing must hinder the growth of his cucumbers.

Next time when I visit him, l will surely go to the garden. Don’t you love gardens? I do. Gardens evoke a special feeling in humans, yeah, our first home was in a beautiful garden located at Eden. This garden was planted by God himself and the first man Adam was put there, he would start his family in a garden.

A garden protects from the scorching sun; is your wife protected from the scorching rays of depression, challenges and even interference from in laws in your home?

A garden is serene and makes you want to visit again, is your home so ambient and peaceful that your husband always wants to run back home, does the atmosphere at home make him stay anywhere else apart from the house ?

Most gardens have a nursery, where tender seedlings are developed (hope I am right horticulturists). Is your home a place where your children can watch, learn and grow to their full potentials, or a place where they learn how to fight with the opposite sex or use verbal abuse as a tool for submission? Is your home a place where God is represented or misrepresented?

A home is not just about how beautiful the house is, or where it is located… But what goes on within the walls of the house.

Years ago a seemingly godly palace in fact King David’s palace, though beautiful and grand was a perfect environment for abuse, rape, incest and sexual immorality.

What are you doing to make your home, heaven on earth? Is your home a wilderness or a garden? Is it a war front or home front? Is it a garden or a refuse dump?

If it is not a garden, what are you doing to make it one?

God bless you and do have a great week ahead.

 

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    Barinem Dimkpa

    September 19, 2017 at 5:56 am

    A very important food for thought. Thank you for the reminder..

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      Ovundah

      September 19, 2017 at 9:00 am

      Thank to you so much.

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    Dr Alali Aloni

    September 19, 2017 at 8:59 am

    Brother! God bless you.

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      Ovundah

      September 19, 2017 at 8:59 am

      Amen Sir.

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    Vnabigs

    September 19, 2017 at 9:32 am

    Amazing piece! A garden doesn’t just exist. Any possibility of that would give you a forest (a rowdy multi-mixed setting). A garden is conciously and intentionally planted. #Vnabigs

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      Ovundah

      September 19, 2017 at 9:35 am

      Thank you so much for your feedback.

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    IfyGod

    September 21, 2017 at 7:45 am

    God help us cultivate our garden. Amen.
    Thanks Dr. Ovd.

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      Ovundah

      September 22, 2017 at 5:15 am

      Amen, thank you so much for your feedback.

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    Utomi

    September 21, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    @Vnabigs… Surely a garden is planted consciously and intentionally…. Looked after painstakingly… And the result amazing. I pray we build garden homes. Thanks OVD nwenne.

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      Ovundah

      September 22, 2017 at 5:14 am

      Thank you so much Ma for your feedback, let’s share the message.

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    Castro

    September 24, 2017 at 11:39 am

    For gardens to nurture, the tenderer must have a heart. That’s the kind of heart we all should have at home. Besides having a heart, one should be patient. Patience sustains love and these must be continuous. We should plant good seeds and uproot weeds in all our gardens. Thanks OVD.

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      Ovundah

      September 24, 2017 at 12:49 pm

      A great response Sir, thank you for your feedback.

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Two can walk together forever…

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

In all thy getting, don’t break your marriage or enter marital problems because of things you read on social media.

All these you are so brave, na so, if it is me… I will not take it… Nonsense man or woman… If he does it, I will do him/her back… Men and women must be put in their place, meniscus, womeniscus, et al… May not be the best for you.

It is also important to note that, people who pour and fire, fire on social media, may not be what they fire in real life…also it is important not to build your marriage on templates that may be faulty.

Like football, great coaches, have a plan or tactics to use, but adapt with the game at hand… Great coaches know when to go for possession and when to concede possession…they know goals and not stats win matches.

As a Christian, my allegiance is to the Word of God, and it guides my relationship with my spouse.

You ginger all the ginger and the word of God, reminds you, O boy, you no try, O boy just look your face for mirror, see that plank wey dey your eyes… πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ And boom you want to drag leg… But the word of God is not your mate… And you obey and get back your peace…

Like I tell those I tell… Marriage is not war, it is not male vs female… It is not pishim pishim … But a deliberate union, where a man and his wife makes a decision together surmount any challenge and be all what God has destined for them …

If both of you agree to #hearword and both bring πŸ’― into the union, not 50-50, both of you are vulnerable and open to yourself in your union and ditch the “do you know who I am” or “I did you a favour by marrying you” πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ and are willing to make your marriage work irrespective of the normal stresses of the relationship… Where both of you look out for the good of your spouse and are willing to walk and work it out to success…

Marriage is a full time job… Don’t allow social media deceive you, it requires investment and thought in the direction you wish it to take… marriage is a wonderful thing…

Everyday airplanes take off and land… Ironically it is the planes that crash or have turbulence that make news… Everyday cars go on long distance journeys and arrive, but it is those that crash or have a mishap that make news…Ships also leave ports and arrive at their destinations, but again, disaster makes more news.
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Don’t allow crashes define or determine the mood of your journey…who goes for a journey and is preoccupied about a crash.

It will work out, it is working out… If you are not hearing word in any area of your life be it anger, infidelity, violence, et al … Go and seek for help and don’t commonize it… Get accountable… Invest in knowledge…fix self… Do all you can to make your marriage work.

#selah #hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries

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Is it a good idea for twins to be in the same classroom?

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This may look like an unnecessary question, but as a parent of twins, even if they are not identical and are of different sexes, it is very vital.

My twin boy and girl are quite attached even if they have different personalities, in fact if you ask one of the twin his name, he will say his name is that of his twin sister.

Recently, we enrolled them into school and we got a shocker, my darlings were not to be in the same class. They were to have different teachers, minders and classmates.

You know we had never really thought of this academic separation and research into whether they should be in the same class or not, brought interesting points for and against.

So I shared this question on my Facebook timeline ‘Any idea why a school refuses to put twin children in the same class?’

And the thoughts shared were enlightening and I would share some of them here.

Chigoziri Enyi Wodu says ‘I am a twin and I liked having my brother in class with me. We were together all through until University.

I think twins should be left together, after all they came out together for a reason.

FYI: We never played any pranks on our teachers, we worked together and it was great having family (someone I knew always had my back) around.

I think upbringing matters a lot here, we are very independent minded, my brother never fails to tell me when I’m being unreasonable, I do the same too. We may not say it to the hearing of others but we look out for each other.’

Ajiri Edosio says ‘I think they do it so they can freely interact with other children and you know some twins are mischievous, they’ll just be using their teachers and classmates to play pranks. My twin nephews are in different classes’

Ishioma Egun says ‘It is just to avoid distraction among the children and help each child to be responsible for his or her actions. Also from my experience with the twins my Uncle had, they were never in the same class from nursery school to secondary. We saw each persons strength and weaknesses in various aspects of the school work.’

Adaoma Okehie-Onwukaeme says’ ‘The teacher might get confused; in short they will scatter the class. If they are naughty children, one may commit a crime or even both and the teacher may develop headache or even hypertension trying to find out who because as twins they may cover for themselves.’

Ogunjobi Omotolani Jemimah says ‘I taught identical twins two years ago. They were both in my class for a year. There’s no reason why they can’t be in the same class. One of the advantage is you help them build their weakness. It fosters consistent learning especially in their elementary years. Academically,socially and emotionally there is some research to indicate that children actually do better when kept together. The flip side of same class for identical twins is that it doesn’t encourage them to develop their individuality.’

Ikhurionan Idialu Bethsy says ‘To prevent unhealthy competition in case one is doing far better.’

Rehan Obagah Berepele says ‘There is always competition between them, fights and distractions. They don’t associate well with others when together. They need individual development. They do better separated.’

Peace Daniel Gobo says ‘My son recently joined a new school and I personally asked for him to be separated from his friend in the football academy. It is usually better for concentration and better social interaction so he can make new friends. So I’m thinking the same should apply for twins.’

Emenu Samuel Chijioke says ‘No reason is good enough.’

Love Fiwajomi says ‘It could be so they can express themselves individually and the teacher will not be confused as to who is who if they look alike so much.
The teacher who asked for them to be separated should be asked. He/She will state his/her reasons. If the reason(s) isn’t good enough, you ask that they should be left in the same class.
I personally experienced where the smart one writes test for he and his twin brother, JSS1 students. They look alike even to their handwriting.’

Diamond Tonye-Obene says ‘They will team up against their classmates.
They will bring home play to school and distract themselves. Please, they should stay apart’.

Aches Ibiene Don Pedro says ‘They should be separate, if one person refuses to write the other might not want to, they can team up and beat up a class mate, they will play too much, thus they might lack concentration. If they are not yet grown you might not know who is actually doing well, as they might be copying from each other.’

Olaka Ebienju says ‘They need to learn individually and express themselves independently. When they are older they can be in same class.’

What do you think? Do you agree?

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Do your kids need a smartphone?

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Raising kids is not a child’s play. At the back of most parents minds is what to use to distract them with, when parents wish to rest or be more productive at home.

For many parents smartphones, tablets or computers are the answer.

From rhymes, to videos, to games, to cartoons, to emmmmmmm social media… these devices got you covered.

But here is the issue, many kids are already hooked to phones before they even own one…add the pressure of buying your children a phone, the internet and then non vigilance… And there is a disaster brewing.

Many times I speak with kids, I ask them to raise their hands if they have phones and many do… I then add if they are on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Whatsapp, Twitter and other social media networks and hands still stay up and then when you ask their ages… You feel sorry for them and their parents…as many are not even old enough to be on the social media platforms they are already on.

I don’t know how to say this… But parents, myself inclusive, it is not in the constitution that you must give your kids phones because you can afford it. It is also not in the constitution that you must open social media accounts for them because they have reached the acceptable ages to get a social media account… Especially if you have not trained them to maturity and independence and you are sure you cannot follow them on social media and know who they follow and their online activities.

Some children even play smart by increasing their ages, so as to get an account and are smart enough to block their parents and all monitoring spirits as well.

And they follow Mhizsexy, MrRandy, Her Slay Highness, His Royal Highness, Mhiznude, Masternaked, CrackheadJoe on social media who will take them on a journey, a really long and perilous journey.

Some are already exposed to cyber bullying or learn how to cyber bully early on.

Some use pictures gotten from the internet as their profile pictures and use fake names as they immerse themselves in a world of senior jokes and learn rubbish as well.

Some play dangerous games on the internet, gamble on the internet and on their phones… Snap nude pictures which they display on exclusive groups and sites.

So before you give your child a phone. Be sure your eyes are on point, be sure you trust them and they trust you too to open up to them.

Be sure you have the strength, skill and wisdom to follow up, not forgetting there are apps which hide iniquitous stuff from the eyes of mortal men.

Emmmmmm that you can access your child’s phone does not mean you know what’s up or you can unearth the mystery inside.

Don’t contribute to your heartbreak and wonder why “village people” are against you… And yes, one child told me once of his prowess in overriding firewalls his parents set.

I said let me, let you know.

If you don’t take care of your children… Things will take care of them.

May the Lord give us wisdom, to be parents indeed in this fast paced generation.

#hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries

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