By Ovundah Nyeche.
Chisa was really really worried, this was the third month since the birth of her son. But she was losing weight and joy. Her baby’s dedication time was approaching and her family was under intense pressure at the moment.
Weeks ago she was in Sandra’s baby’s dedication; the reception held in a popular hotel in GRA, the environment was serene and peaceful, the lighting in the hall was scintillating and breath taking, she had hired a professional lighting specialist to light up the place to match the colours of the day. Sandra was dressed like an angel and she was adorned with pearls made from the finest of hands.
Sandra looked so good, her husband also gave her an SUV as her child’s dedication gift, the caterers serving the food also looked well groomed, the aroma coming from the small chops, samosa, spring rolls and snails prepared was enough to satisfy you, each table had a small bottle of Martinellis wine for each guest and there were also customised souvenirs for each guest.
They even invited a top gospel artiste, who sent the guests on a tour to heaven and back, the MC was also reeling out rib cracking jokes to the delight of the guests.
After she left, she felt more worried, how will hers be? The pictures of the event on social media also made her more depressed. Three weeks later Tracy invited her for her baby’s dedication too, it was not different from Sandie’s. How do these people get money, do they plant money on trees?
Her baby’s dedication would not be any different. She would borrow if there was need to, #300,000 would be adequate to do at least the smallest dedication. She wanted to rock those beads her mum gave to her and she wanted to tie that beautiful wrapper she saw in Chioma’s shop. At worse she would buy on credit and pay back later.
She would also order matching shirts for her entire family from a good fashion designer who was her friend on social media. Her other friends got their clothes from him and these outfits made her salivate.
Her husband was also under pressure as the proposed date was approaching, and the money they expected was not in sight. What kind of embarrassment was this? She suddenly started fasting and praying, for breakthrough, money must change hands. All the money they needed must come. Her own case would not be different.
Come on, even Daisy not doing as well as they were doing, had her child’s dedication; no way if needs be, they would borrow money for their own baby’s dedication. She knew it would be shameful to borrow from Sandie, so she made up her mind to borrow money from the money lender who lives not too far from her. “At all, at all, na in bad pass”!
However something happened seven days ago that changed everything and changed her. She went to see her Pastor to remind him of the date for her baby’s dedication. She had earlier met the money lender , who had agreed to give her the loan for the dedication , with only a 25% interest rate and she was to borrow, #300,000.
But as she approached her Pastor after the midweek service something happened. She noticed a lady and her husband was standing with their Pastor. The Pastor was also praying and laying hands on their baby. Was this not Miriam and her husband doing very well financially? They were living in their own house and Miriam had one of the biggest baby shop in a very choice location.
Did Miriam not deliver almost at the same time with her, was it not Miriam’s baby the Pastor’s wife was carrying? Was the pastor not dedicating the baby? What is happening here? She said to herself.
As the husband, wife, their baby left the altar, she moved towards them to greet them. She had not seen Miriam’s baby, since she delivered, as they also delivered at about the same time. She exchanged pleasantries with the family and they told her they just had their baby’s dedication.
She went with them outside and as they entered their car to leave, she took her phone out of her purse, called her husband and they spoke for a while. After speaking with her husband, she went back into the church and spoke with the Pastor, they were fixing their baby’s dedication for next week Wednesday after the mid-week service and it was strictly a family affair.
She just counted her teeth, with her tongue and it was 32; and yes God answered her prayers, money did not change hands as she expected, but wisdom changed hands, which was far better.
Do your kids need a smartphone?
By Ovundah Nyeche
Raising kids is not a child’s play. At the back of most parents minds is what to use to distract them with, when parents wish to rest or be more productive at home.
For many parents smartphones, tablets or computers are the answer.
From rhymes, to videos, to games, to cartoons, to emmmmmmm social media… these devices got you covered.
But here is the issue, many kids are already hooked to phones before they even own one…add the pressure of buying your children a phone, the internet and then non vigilance… And there is a disaster brewing.
Many times I speak with kids, I ask them to raise their hands if they have phones and many do… I then add if they are on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Whatsapp, Twitter and other social media networks and hands still stay up and then when you ask their ages… You feel sorry for them and their parents…as many are not even old enough to be on the social media platforms they are already on.
I don’t know how to say this… But parents, myself inclusive, it is not in the constitution that you must give your kids phones because you can afford it. It is also not in the constitution that you must open social media accounts for them because they have reached the acceptable ages to get a social media account… Especially if you have not trained them to maturity and independence and you are sure you cannot follow them on social media and know who they follow and their online activities.
Some children even play smart by increasing their ages, so as to get an account and are smart enough to block their parents and all monitoring spirits as well.
And they follow Mhizsexy, MrRandy, Her Slay Highness, His Royal Highness, Mhiznude, Masternaked, CrackheadJoe on social media who will take them on a journey, a really long and perilous journey.
Some are already exposed to cyber bullying or learn how to cyber bully early on.
Some use pictures gotten from the internet as their profile pictures and use fake names as they immerse themselves in a world of senior jokes and learn rubbish as well.
Some play dangerous games on the internet, gamble on the internet and on their phones… Snap nude pictures which they display on exclusive groups and sites.
So before you give your child a phone. Be sure your eyes are on point, be sure you trust them and they trust you too to open up to them.
Be sure you have the strength, skill and wisdom to follow up, not forgetting there are apps which hide iniquitous stuff from the eyes of mortal men.
Emmmmmm that you can access your child’s phone does not mean you know what’s up or you can unearth the mystery inside.
Don’t contribute to your heartbreak and wonder why “village people” are against you… And yes, one child told me once of his prowess in overriding firewalls his parents set.
I said let me, let you know.
If you don’t take care of your children… Things will take care of them.
May the Lord give us wisdom, to be parents indeed in this fast paced generation.
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How Expensive are Expensive Weddings?
By Edisemi Okpokiti
The cost for marriages is another reason for low marriages and also early broken marriages…it brings too much pressure to the equation.
Too much expectations, too much injuries in the process to accomplish, too much division already between new families who ought to be uniting, too much attention of the supposed spouse on an event than on the marriage.
Too much false hood expressed that has to be sustained, but with no basis for maintenance. Too much bad blood between supposed couples before they even start their home.
Many marriages ended on the night or morning after the wedding ceremony.
People regret night after their traditional wedding, and ask if it was worth all the tension, pressure and troubles or are visibly sad all through the wedding realising they have short changed themselves.
Love is stifled by fleshy lust of men and women for rights,privileges and inordinate desires to feel among. Many work for years to blow it one week 😭😭
Once the cost of the price to marry is reduced, the attention will be shifted to what my choice person thinks or feels and not what people think or feel; and that’s how relationships are built.
Preparation for marriage ought to be a good opportunity for people to know and get more acquainted with themselves but the pressure makes them distant from themselves, cursing, fighting and bitter at each other for their difference in priority and the family effect on them.
Father in-laws, mother in-laws , Siblings already become vouched enemies even before they know themselves.
It’s pathetic that poor families are the most expensive ones to marry from, it’s like these marriages is their visa out of poverty.
Elders have become children in their conduct and character just because of a young child’s money collected with the deceit of a priceless adventure.
Churches should adopt like the Orthodox churches now do for burials, giving specific date you must bury after death, thereby forcing hands to bury with what they have and not what they think they want.
Weddings in churches should be encouraged to be done even in midweeks and without receptions.
Young people also should stop talking of dream marriages. The women especially would shout “It is not in my turn, I’ll fall my hands”, but can’t you all see ,the men are not proposing because they are afraid and do not have what your entire village will demand? Ladies have to start discussing with their fathers and uncles and defend their husband to be.
Money spent on Marriages in this country, especially by the middle class and poor if invested could make those couples financially stable.
The steam most times is off before the team comes to field.
Many have lost even before the game starts.
Well for those who are really really well to do and I mean both not that the man is. Those whose families have more than enough to spare, then you are not stopped from your ecstasy.
If you are in relationship, and it’s not taking the next step this is a major cause. Seat with yourselves, seat with your parents and pastors and achieve your desire without destroying your desire. SELAH!
If you are a sibling or parent , please assist and clear all barriers and ensure your children and siblings don’t have this as a barrier preventing their marriage.
The age of unmarried is increasing daily to an average of 30…if this menace is not addressed …we will soon hit 35 yrs as average age of unmarried girls.
Let the wise hear, but the foolish rant…Life is a choice.
A counsel is not forced on anyone.
Edisemi Okpokiti is the Lead Faculty, The Pulpit and Lead Consultant of Rhabonni Consult Limited (A Human Capital Development Consultancy Firm). He is a trained Information Management Consultant and passionate preacher of the gospel.
A Homemaker smells nice
By Ovundah Nyeche.
When you are minding your business and you see ladies (not married), dissing a lady for staying at home to take care of her own kids, when she should be making shekels out there…
And end the admonition, by asking her; why her husband can’t quit his job, to take care of his children…
My own is to tell you… To mind the kind of friends you keep and not allow all kinds of people who do not know the kind of music you are playing on your earphone, cause you to dance, dance steps that appeal to them.
Do not allow people sow seeds in your life that would destroy your marriage, children, peace of mind and make you take for granted the noble and priceless work you do to raise your children.
I want to specially salute all stay at home mums and mums who work from home. God bless you loads.
I also want to hail all women who keep regular jobs but do not reduce child raising to a gender war, unnecessarily room for squabble or a burden that is impeding their progress.
Taking care of your children is not synonymous with being lazy, retrogressive or being static.
Children don’t remain children for ever…they will grow.
And the seed you sow in your children, don’t remain seeds for ever…they would either be life giving fruits or bitter fruits.
Every child deserves the best of care from both parents, if they are alive. Whether you are a father or mother, you should do all you can to impact positively in the live of the children and do it with delight.
Again what do I know?
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