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Count Your Teeth With Your Tongue… Child Dedication Palaver

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Chisa was really really worried, this was the third month since the birth of her son. But she was losing weight and joy. Her baby’s dedication time was approaching and her family was under intense pressure at the moment.

Weeks ago she was in Sandra’s baby’s dedication; the reception held in a popular hotel in GRA, the environment was serene and peaceful, the lighting in the hall was scintillating and breath taking, she had hired a professional lighting specialist to light up the place to match the colours of the day. Sandra was dressed like an angel and she was adorned with pearls made from the finest of hands.

Sandra looked so good, her husband also gave her an SUV as her child’s dedication gift, the caterers serving the food also looked well groomed, the aroma coming from the small chops, samosa, spring rolls and snails prepared was enough to satisfy you, each table had a small bottle of Martinellis wine for each guest and there were also customised souvenirs for each guest.

They even invited a top gospel artiste, who sent the guests on a tour to heaven and back, the MC was also reeling out rib cracking jokes to the delight of the guests.

After she left, she felt more worried, how will hers be? Β The pictures of the event on social media also made her more depressed. Three weeks later Tracy invited her for her baby’s dedication too, it was not different from Sandie’s. How do these people get money, do they plant money on trees?

Her baby’s dedication would not be any different. She would borrow if there was need to, #300,000 would be adequate to do at least the smallest dedication. She wanted to rock those beads her mum gave to her and she wanted to tie that beautiful wrapper she saw in Chioma’s shop. At worse she would buy on credit and pay back later.

She would also order matching shirts for her entire family from a good fashion designer who was her friend on social media. Β Her other friends got their clothes from him and these outfits made her salivate.

Her husband was also under pressure as the proposed date was approaching, and the money they expected was not in sight. What kind of embarrassment was this? She suddenly started fasting and praying, for breakthrough, money must change hands. All the money they needed must come. Her own case would not be different.

Come on, even Daisy not doing as well as they were doing, had her child’s dedication; no way if needs be, they would borrow money for their own baby’s dedication. She knew it would be shameful to borrow from Sandie, so she made up her mind to borrow money from the money lender who lives not too far from her. “At all, at all, na in bad pass”!

However something happened seven days ago that changed everything and changed her. She went to see her Pastor to remind him of the date for her baby’s dedication. She had earlier met the money lender , who had agreed to give her the loan for the dedication , with only a 25% interest rate and she was to borrow, #300,000.

But as she approached her Pastor after the midweek service something happened. She noticed a lady and her husband was standing with their Pastor. The Pastor was also praying and laying hands on their baby. Was this not Miriam and her husband doing very well financially? They were living in their own house and Miriam had one of the biggest baby shop in a very choice location.

Did Miriam not deliver almost at the same time with her, was it not Miriam’s baby the Pastor’s wife was carrying? Was the pastor not dedicating the baby? What is happening here? She said to herself.

As the husband, wife, their baby left the altar, she moved towards them to greet them. She had not seen Miriam’s baby, since she delivered, as they also delivered at about the same time. She exchanged pleasantries with the family and they told her they just had their baby’s dedication.

She went with them outside and as they entered their car to leave, she took her phone out of her purse, called her husband and they spoke for a while. After speaking with her husband, she went back into the church and spoke with the Pastor, they were fixing their baby’s dedication for next week Wednesday after the mid-week service and it was strictly a family affair.

She just counted her teeth, with her tongue and it was 32; and yes God answered her prayers, money did not change hands as she expected, but wisdom changed hands, which was far better.

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    Abasumoh

    September 12, 2017 at 11:48 am

    Very informative post. I have to cut my teeth with my tongue again and again. Can’t afford to wait for child dedication before I count o. I must start counting right now!

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      Ovundah

      September 12, 2017 at 12:31 pm

      I guess the your teeth are 32 in number. Wisdom is always profitable to direct. Thanks for your feedback Sir.

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    Ibraks

    September 12, 2017 at 12:36 pm

    Wisdom is profitable to direct. One of my rules in life is never borrow money for the purpose of throwing a parry. I will soon do my own sef, lemme goan count my teeth.

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      Ovundah

      September 12, 2017 at 12:51 pm

      Congratulations on the birth of your babies and your children dedication. Thanks for your feedback.

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    Kay

    September 12, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    Nice. I learnt this the hard way. I wanted a simple dedication for my first baby, everybody was like ‘ah ah, for your first pikin? No nah’.

    Anyway I still made it simple but not as simple as I had originally planned. When the dedication ended, na so my eye clear. Everybody was gone….. lol.

    Until we attended a friend’s baby dedication that ended with the service. No reception whatsoever. People talked. After one week, we all forgot about it.

    My people, cut your coat, according to your pocket.

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      Ovundah

      September 12, 2017 at 2:32 pm

      Well said Sir.. Lol @ everybody was gone.

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    Chike

    September 12, 2017 at 6:44 pm

    Great post….
    Only borrow to get an asset…

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      Ovundah

      September 13, 2017 at 5:23 am

      Thank you for your feedback Chike, keep reading and sharing our articles.

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Two can walk together forever…

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

In all thy getting, don’t break your marriage or enter marital problems because of things you read on social media.

All these you are so brave, na so, if it is me… I will not take it… Nonsense man or woman… If he does it, I will do him/her back… Men and women must be put in their place, meniscus, womeniscus, et al… May not be the best for you.

It is also important to note that, people who pour and fire, fire on social media, may not be what they fire in real life…also it is important not to build your marriage on templates that may be faulty.

Like football, great coaches, have a plan or tactics to use, but adapt with the game at hand… Great coaches know when to go for possession and when to concede possession…they know goals and not stats win matches.

As a Christian, my allegiance is to the Word of God, and it guides my relationship with my spouse.

You ginger all the ginger and the word of God, reminds you, O boy, you no try, O boy just look your face for mirror, see that plank wey dey your eyes… πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ And boom you want to drag leg… But the word of God is not your mate… And you obey and get back your peace…

Like I tell those I tell… Marriage is not war, it is not male vs female… It is not pishim pishim … But a deliberate union, where a man and his wife makes a decision together surmount any challenge and be all what God has destined for them …

If both of you agree to #hearword and both bring πŸ’― into the union, not 50-50, both of you are vulnerable and open to yourself in your union and ditch the “do you know who I am” or “I did you a favour by marrying you” πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ and are willing to make your marriage work irrespective of the normal stresses of the relationship… Where both of you look out for the good of your spouse and are willing to walk and work it out to success…

Marriage is a full time job… Don’t allow social media deceive you, it requires investment and thought in the direction you wish it to take… marriage is a wonderful thing…

Everyday airplanes take off and land… Ironically it is the planes that crash or have turbulence that make news… Everyday cars go on long distance journeys and arrive, but it is those that crash or have a mishap that make news…Ships also leave ports and arrive at their destinations, but again, disaster makes more news.
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Don’t allow crashes define or determine the mood of your journey…who goes for a journey and is preoccupied about a crash.

It will work out, it is working out… If you are not hearing word in any area of your life be it anger, infidelity, violence, et al … Go and seek for help and don’t commonize it… Get accountable… Invest in knowledge…fix self… Do all you can to make your marriage work.

#selah #hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries

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Is it a good idea for twins to be in the same classroom?

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This may look like an unnecessary question, but as a parent of twins, even if they are not identical and are of different sexes, it is very vital.

My twin boy and girl are quite attached even if they have different personalities, in fact if you ask one of the twin his name, he will say his name is that of his twin sister.

Recently, we enrolled them into school and we got a shocker, my darlings were not to be in the same class. They were to have different teachers, minders and classmates.

You know we had never really thought of this academic separation and research into whether they should be in the same class or not, brought interesting points for and against.

So I shared this question on my Facebook timeline ‘Any idea why a school refuses to put twin children in the same class?’

And the thoughts shared were enlightening and I would share some of them here.

Chigoziri Enyi Wodu says ‘I am a twin and I liked having my brother in class with me. We were together all through until University.

I think twins should be left together, after all they came out together for a reason.

FYI: We never played any pranks on our teachers, we worked together and it was great having family (someone I knew always had my back) around.

I think upbringing matters a lot here, we are very independent minded, my brother never fails to tell me when I’m being unreasonable, I do the same too. We may not say it to the hearing of others but we look out for each other.’

Ajiri Edosio says ‘I think they do it so they can freely interact with other children and you know some twins are mischievous, they’ll just be using their teachers and classmates to play pranks. My twin nephews are in different classes’

Ishioma Egun says ‘It is just to avoid distraction among the children and help each child to be responsible for his or her actions. Also from my experience with the twins my Uncle had, they were never in the same class from nursery school to secondary. We saw each persons strength and weaknesses in various aspects of the school work.’

Adaoma Okehie-Onwukaeme says’ ‘The teacher might get confused; in short they will scatter the class. If they are naughty children, one may commit a crime or even both and the teacher may develop headache or even hypertension trying to find out who because as twins they may cover for themselves.’

Ogunjobi Omotolani Jemimah says ‘I taught identical twins two years ago. They were both in my class for a year. There’s no reason why they can’t be in the same class. One of the advantage is you help them build their weakness. It fosters consistent learning especially in their elementary years. Academically,socially and emotionally there is some research to indicate that children actually do better when kept together. The flip side of same class for identical twins is that it doesn’t encourage them to develop their individuality.’

Ikhurionan Idialu Bethsy says ‘To prevent unhealthy competition in case one is doing far better.’

Rehan Obagah Berepele says ‘There is always competition between them, fights and distractions. They don’t associate well with others when together. They need individual development. They do better separated.’

Peace Daniel Gobo says ‘My son recently joined a new school and I personally asked for him to be separated from his friend in the football academy. It is usually better for concentration and better social interaction so he can make new friends. So I’m thinking the same should apply for twins.’

Emenu Samuel Chijioke says ‘No reason is good enough.’

Love Fiwajomi says ‘It could be so they can express themselves individually and the teacher will not be confused as to who is who if they look alike so much.
The teacher who asked for them to be separated should be asked. He/She will state his/her reasons. If the reason(s) isn’t good enough, you ask that they should be left in the same class.
I personally experienced where the smart one writes test for he and his twin brother, JSS1 students. They look alike even to their handwriting.’

Diamond Tonye-Obene says ‘They will team up against their classmates.
They will bring home play to school and distract themselves. Please, they should stay apart’.

Aches Ibiene Don Pedro says ‘They should be separate, if one person refuses to write the other might not want to, they can team up and beat up a class mate, they will play too much, thus they might lack concentration. If they are not yet grown you might not know who is actually doing well, as they might be copying from each other.’

Olaka Ebienju says ‘They need to learn individually and express themselves independently. When they are older they can be in same class.’

What do you think? Do you agree?

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Do your kids need a smartphone?

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Raising kids is not a child’s play. At the back of most parents minds is what to use to distract them with, when parents wish to rest or be more productive at home.

For many parents smartphones, tablets or computers are the answer.

From rhymes, to videos, to games, to cartoons, to emmmmmmm social media… these devices got you covered.

But here is the issue, many kids are already hooked to phones before they even own one…add the pressure of buying your children a phone, the internet and then non vigilance… And there is a disaster brewing.

Many times I speak with kids, I ask them to raise their hands if they have phones and many do… I then add if they are on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Whatsapp, Twitter and other social media networks and hands still stay up and then when you ask their ages… You feel sorry for them and their parents…as many are not even old enough to be on the social media platforms they are already on.

I don’t know how to say this… But parents, myself inclusive, it is not in the constitution that you must give your kids phones because you can afford it. It is also not in the constitution that you must open social media accounts for them because they have reached the acceptable ages to get a social media account… Especially if you have not trained them to maturity and independence and you are sure you cannot follow them on social media and know who they follow and their online activities.

Some children even play smart by increasing their ages, so as to get an account and are smart enough to block their parents and all monitoring spirits as well.

And they follow Mhizsexy, MrRandy, Her Slay Highness, His Royal Highness, Mhiznude, Masternaked, CrackheadJoe on social media who will take them on a journey, a really long and perilous journey.

Some are already exposed to cyber bullying or learn how to cyber bully early on.

Some use pictures gotten from the internet as their profile pictures and use fake names as they immerse themselves in a world of senior jokes and learn rubbish as well.

Some play dangerous games on the internet, gamble on the internet and on their phones… Snap nude pictures which they display on exclusive groups and sites.

So before you give your child a phone. Be sure your eyes are on point, be sure you trust them and they trust you too to open up to them.

Be sure you have the strength, skill and wisdom to follow up, not forgetting there are apps which hide iniquitous stuff from the eyes of mortal men.

Emmmmmm that you can access your child’s phone does not mean you know what’s up or you can unearth the mystery inside.

Don’t contribute to your heartbreak and wonder why “village people” are against you… And yes, one child told me once of his prowess in overriding firewalls his parents set.

I said let me, let you know.

If you don’t take care of your children… Things will take care of them.

May the Lord give us wisdom, to be parents indeed in this fast paced generation.

#hearword #OvdSpeaks #hearwordseries

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