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WHO GREE-GREE HELP? MAKE THAT MOVE…

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Donald went out early today, he had an appointment by 8:00 am and he did not want to arrive late. But when he got midway to his destination,  he was held up in traffic, a journey of thirty minutes was now approaching one hour.

The cars in front of him were moving slower than a tired tortoise, “What was the cause of this traffic?” He asked himself. When his car finally reached the bottle neck, he discovered that there was an accident. The occupants of the car were rushed to the hospital and their lives were hanging by a thin thread.

Mr A was driving in his lane, he had the right of way, Mr B was driving in Mr A’s lane from the opposite direction, and was trying to overtake another car, he saw Mr A approaching, flashed him and assumed Mr A would slow down. Mr A wanted to teach Mr B a lesson, ” Mr B should know he was driving in a lane not his and should slow down” he said. And before we could shout #Hearword they had a head-on collision. They were really in a bad shape and their vehicles were damaged beyond repair.

As Donald passed their wrecked vehicles, he felt so much pity for the drivers. The road was freer after the impasse and then he suddenly remembered that he had an appointment to catch, looking at the clock in the car he had just twenty minutes to get to the venue.

He had to march his foot throttle so his car could move faster, he had an appointment to catch. As he got closer to the venue, he saw an incoming vehicle about fifty meters away, trying to overtake a truck. He flashed the driver, but the driver was still speeding, horned but he was still speeding. Donald simply applied his break, slowed down and cleared from the road to allow the impatient and reckless driver overtake the truck. He would not be the next one involved in a head on collision.

Even though he was right, he simply slowed down and cleared from the road. He knew “gree-gree” will land him where he never intended going. He got to the venue for the appointment on time, and the day was a great day for him.

As he approached home after the day, his smile soon turned to a frown, he was going to meet his annoying wife. They had been having several arguments and had not talked to themselves for awhile. From looking like a couple on a ship going to a destination few years ago when they married, they were looking like two people driving different cars in the opposite direction in full speed, they were in fact complete strangers now living under the same roof.

As Donald thought about his day, he realised his home was gradually going on a collision course and he realised that this “gree-gree” would help no one, he realised he slowed down for an impatient and reckless driver who was a perfect stranger so their cars and live would be spared, how much more his wife, the love of his life.

As he got to the gate of his house rather than entering inside, he reversed his car, went to a supermarket got his wife some stuff including a necklace and a perfume and when he came back knelt down to apologise to her and made a decision to listen better and told her he was willing to work on their relationship and be better for their relationship. While she was still opening her mouth, wondering what happened, he gave her the perfume and put the necklace on her neck, by this time she was now crying and asking for forgiveness too.

Who loves head on collisions? Donald did not and I am sure, you don’t too. Make that move, slow down and save your marriage; “gree-gree” will take you no where, save onlookers the anguish of looking at your badly damaged cars.

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    Ofor Ifeanyichukwu

    August 22, 2017 at 5:37 am

    When we all decide that we are not always right, when we all decide that we need each other to coexist peacefully, the world will be a much better place.

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      Ovundah

      August 22, 2017 at 5:50 pm

      Very true.

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    OBINNA Eze

    August 22, 2017 at 7:51 am

    Good one am bless by this article, things I thought I knew is like a new thing to me now Thank you doctor for this.

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      Ovundah

      August 22, 2017 at 5:49 pm

      Thank you for your feedback

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    Rare Diamondz

    August 22, 2017 at 3:43 pm

    Just bumped into this blog via a link. Good job Dr.Ovunda. u are really imparting lives,I’m inspired.

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      Ovundah

      August 22, 2017 at 5:45 pm

      Thank you so much and God bless you.

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      Ovundah

      August 25, 2017 at 5:51 pm

      Thank you for your kind words…Let others know about the blog too.

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    Ojimba Nengi

    August 23, 2017 at 9:32 am

    Thank you for this. True true, gree gree no help anybody…

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      Ovundah

      August 27, 2017 at 5:59 am

      Thanks for your comment Nengi.

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    Iyke Abolle

    August 23, 2017 at 10:23 pm

    OVD,
    This write-up is on point!

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      Ovundah

      August 24, 2017 at 6:11 am

      Thank you for reading this post and commenting, let others know about “Who gree-gree help? Make that move”. Great hearing from you Iyke Abolle.

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    Gladys Shawana

    August 26, 2017 at 8:44 am

    Well done Sir…God bless you

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    Ovundah

    August 27, 2017 at 5:59 am

    Thanks and amen, Ma.

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    tamunobelema alamina

    August 27, 2017 at 7:02 am

    True, even if your right, it’s interesting to see the other persons reaction some times. Have the bigger picture in view

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      Ovundah

      September 5, 2017 at 10:25 pm

      Thanks for your comment Belz

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    IfyGod

    December 13, 2017 at 4:24 am

    Another wonderful piece OVD. God bless you bro. We all sure need to slow down at some points in life to avoid collisions.

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      Ovundah

      December 13, 2017 at 2:37 pm

      Thank you so much Sir for your feedback.

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The Parable of the Forgotten Shoes

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By Benjamin Dike

So this was how I was dressed in church today!

Forgot my shoes? No. My wife did. Before you think my wife practically slaves for me, she doesn’t. She is actually the boss; I live in her house. So here is what happened.

We had got set for church and I was carrying things to the car. As I stooped to pick my shoes (I don’t like driving with my shoes on if I can help it), she offered to help me bring the shoes to the car.


I pulled out the car and we drive to church. Then I asked her for my shoes. Now you already know the response. She had forgotten the shoes at home. First, I ‘froze’. This was quite serious. I can’t go home to get the shoes. Home is on the Island; Church is on the mainland. Then I was about saying, But I wanted to pick the shoes and you … (Yeah, at least I should blame her). But one look at her stopped me in my tracks. She looked so subdued and beaten like a little child.

This woman is one of the most meticulous persons I know. I can keep something somewhere in her absence and will later forget where I kept it. My only hope is my wife or the Holy Spirit (when she is not available). I will just tell her that I am looking for so and so and she will either tell me where it is or she will go find it. So, one look at Madam Meticulous, I felt enormous pity (or was it compassion) well up inside me. She obviously had no bad intentions. Things just happen sometimes.


I chuckled and told her not to worry. My mood shifted immediately. It was now a sense of excitement to dress up in my nice suit – with a slipper on! I will look different, I told myself. And I will leave people guessing – that is if they even notice! (Often we forget that people are busy focusing on themselves that they may not even notice the shoes you are wearing).

I started looking forward to it. Then I asked myself, what has my dressing got to do with my worship after all? Wow! It felt so liberating. It was a powerful deliverance from human expectations and convention. It was a refocusing on what really matters. Perhaps, it’s really my heart that matters, my heart that God cares about, not merely the outer trappings. Don’t get me wrong, proper dressing is proper – when you can help it! But now, I couldn’t help it. And I wasn’t about to ruin my day and my worship on the altar of a ‘forgotten shoes’.

Meanwhile, my wife was still deeply beaten and looking for how to fix the ‘mess’. She got one of my young men to go home and get me his shoes. But I flatly refused. I was just fine. Sometimes a little bit of mischief can spice up life. And I was loving the mischief of a suit with some marching slippers!

So here are 4 quick lessons that came to mind


1) How you live your day is a choice – joy or ruin.


2) Sometimes, people don’t wrong you because they are bad. It’s just because they are people – they can fail.


3) What if we were to judge people by their true intentions and not their actions. Maybe we will have better relationships. The reality is that we often judge people by their actions while we judge ourselves by our intentions.


4) What you see as a problem is what becomes a problem. A messy situation is really a matter of interpretation.

My friends, trust me, I had a very beautiful time in church today – shoes or no shoes. So, focus on what’s important and free yourself from the needless clutter than ruin your fun in life.

Choose to enjoy your life, mbok!



Benjamin C. Dike, PhD

Benjamin is the executive Chairman of Joshua Leadership Project. He holds a Master of Business Administration (MBA) from the University of Leicester, United Kingdom and a Doctorate degree in Credit Management from the  International University of Panama. Benjamin is a Member of the Chartered Institute of Bankers of Nigeria and a Fellow of both the Institute of Credit Administration and the Chartered Institute of Finance and Control of Nigeria. A prolific and insightful writer, he has several published works, including God of My Right Hand and EveryDay Leadership.

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Don’t Fake it, Face it…

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By Ovundah Nyeche.

Few days ago, I called a friend on phone and told him I needed to see him urgently. We had fixed meetings several times in the past, but work and other things prevented these from holding. This time however, the meeting had to hold.

He breathed heavily when he picked up the phone, and asked me, ‘Ovd did my wife call you?’, a question I did not answer. In response I told him we should meet the following day at a particular venue for a man-to-man talk.

The day of the meeting came and we sat down, man-to-man, brother-to-brother. We talked, no holds barred and at the end, he said ‘Bro, I did not see this stuff in this light, I feel very sorry. I have to make peace’. He left the meeting much better than he came, and he made commitments to stop the offence that caused the issue and immediately ended all appointments and made plans to go home to his wife.

I smiled. I have also been on the hot seat, one call to mentors or friends when I no dey hear word and I am put in my place and vice versa. No, my own relationship is not without its own challenges.

I called to follow up later on my friends and it was as though a problem that had lasted years had disappeared, and the smiles and number of ‘Thank yous’ on the other side of the phone was enough to build a flyover.

This is why I shake my head when I see couples build their home on the erroneous maxim ‘a third party must never know what is happening in your home’. This sounds nice, sweet and motivational but in many cases it backfires.

Sassy and Lassy are breaking up after 1 year in marriage and you ask to know what the issue is or was and you find out they are issues that if they were sorted out in time would not have resulted in the mountain or chasm that the problem now looks like or if counsel was sought on time they would have found out that they were not the only ones who had that issue, and it is actually not an issue if faced with wisdom.

Unsurprisingly, many things people face are not unique and many times not novel.

This journey is too important to isolate yourself from wise counsel and from people that can make you accountable, people that can mentor you and guide you in the right path.

Today Hear Word and do the right thing.

Today Hear Word and invest in the right relationships.

Today Hear Word and be intentional about the success of your marriage.

Today Hear Word and suffocate needless problems.

Today, Hear Word.

Hearword #ovdspeaks #HearWordSeries

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House Rent Palaver.

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When you get married, apart from your children school fees, one issue that will talk to you every year/season, if you stay in a country like Nigeria and you don’t have your property, stay in your organization’s accommodation, or have your accommodation sorted out by your organization, is the issue of house rent.

Yes, house rents speaks so loud…and house rents can cause family problems if not tackled with wisdom, reality and the truth.

As a couple, it is important you tell yourself basic truths about your finances and plan accordingly.

Yes your ‘levels’ may be saying GRA or Peter Odili road or Banana Island, but what does your pocket say? Knowing that in 12 months time, the house rent bell will ring again…and for unexplained reasons it is usually easier to pay the first rent than subsequent ones in many cases.

Like someone advised your yearly house rent should not be more than 20% of your yearly income or yearly profi and trust me ‘e no easy to bring out’ the whole rent at once, so it may be wisdom to save monthly for it. So if you can’t bring out (let’s say your house rent is #1,000,000 yearly) #100,000 monthly comfortably, it may be very difficult to pay the #1,000,000 at once and it may be a pointer, that you are living above your means.

May the Lord grant us wisdom and may you not live your life on other people’s impression about you…or plan your budget based on the circle of friends you belong to. All fingers are not equal, even if they are part of the same hand.

Telling yourselves basic truths, can save your family a whole lot of headache…yes, life is not always straight forward and hard times and emergencies can sometimes come unannounced, but to the best of your abilities, be truthful to yourselves.

Like a proverb says “No look another person pot of soup, do garri”…’e go shock you’.

May wisdom lead you.

#HearWord #ovdspeaks #HearWordseries

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