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SATURDAY NIGHT BLUES PART I

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By Uchenna Ezenwa Akujobi

Some dude came requesting for me, said he heard I was the “HIV doctor”. Nna mehn…when I heard this, I almost fainted. What does he even mean? Well, he said someone sent him to see me. Now, he’s been dating this girl for more than two years and he says he really loves her. He is also a born again child of God and he is filled with the Holy Spirit. He asked me “Doc are you born again?”
I looked at him like “Guy, is that why you are here?”

I was having a terrible day; I had lost a patient earlier and it wasn’t funny. Plus I was still confused and pondering over the “HIV doctor” thing.

Me: “Bros how can I really help you… and I’m Dr. Uche, by the way, not HIV doctor”.
Him: “My brother, this my fiancee and I…”

He went on to give me gist many of which I didn’t ask for. He talked about how they met and their journey thus far. How he hadn’t touched her until 48 hrs ago. He is born again and filled with the Spirit of God but then he let his guard loose and the devil led him to fornicate. They had sex about thrice on Saturday night and they went to church together on Sunday morning.#Clearsthroat.

While in church he felt so much guilt and his spirit led him to do a HIV test. He wanted to marry her so what the heck, he considered it the pre-premarital screening. They went to a “chemist” owned by a friend. By the time they were done, his friend said the result was inconclusive. Mr. Friend eventually called him aside and directed him here to see the “HIV doctor”; and here was he seeing me on a Monday morning.

For my mind I was like “Oh, so that’s the person that called me ‘HIV doctor’… people don’t have sense ooo. When you call someone the ‘HIV doctor’, doesn’t it sound somehow in your head? Like you just referred to him as the doctor who’s HIV positive? It’s like when you deliver a baby and they start calling you the “Woman doctor”.

Well … so we repeated the HIV tests and guess what? I had a discordant couple in my hands. It’s a very delicate thing trying to convince someone it’s going to be OK when their spouse is positive and they aren’t…Well, his fiancee was positive. He was negative. The post-test counselling was just another kettle of fish. I spoke to the lady first.

Me: “So my dear how’re you? …your Oga say mak una do HIV test”.
She: “Na so I see am … She was smiling”.
Me: “So what do you know about HIV / AIDS?”
She: “I know say once person get am, e better make him just die first than for people to hear”

She went on and on to confirm all the balderdash information about HIV in circulation today. It is so glaring that many people are so misinformed

Just to put it out there
1- HIV is not an attack from your village people. 
2- There are a thousand and one medical conditions that can kill you faster.
3- It’s contracted from exposure to body fluids containing the virus… mostly from unprotected sexual intercourse. .
4- It has no cure at the moment.
5- Adherence to anti HIV drugs can help you live a normal life for a very long time even if you’re infected.

I can go on and on but no one listens to a doctor these days especially on health issues…

She went on to tell me she didn’t even love this guy. He was just the one amongst the many who had stepped up to ask her to marry him. She was seeing three guys. The one she really loved was a bastard. She spent Friday night with him. They had sex…it was probably so good she was knocked unconscious ‘cos in her sleep, he left. She woke up and he was nowhere in sight. He returned hours later and she wondered where he went. She went through his phone and saw things. Apparently he left her on his bed and went to visit some other babe who was thanking him via text for the love-making that hot Saturday afternoon. They had a fight and he sent her away.

Stranded, she decided to visit this bro that loves her so much. One thing led to another & they were having marathon sex on Saturday night. Nna Mehn, my mouth open, I was looking at her in total bewilderment… I was just wondering how someone intended to marry someone she does not love and how her partner thought she did; I was wondering how a rela. I asked her what she’d do if she was positive… She said she’d retire to somewhere and kill herself.
Me: “Well my sister… I’m sorry but you’re HIV positive…We’d run some confirmatory tests and…”
She: “Doctor wait…Stop talking (she was looking me dead in the eyes, she had the look of someone who’d kill herself, and she was no longer smiling). You wouldn’t tell my Oga about this right…”
Me: “Of course I wouldn’t but….”
She: “Shhhhhhh!!! Just be quiet Doc…”

My brother fear begin catch me ooo.

Will complete this later, let me answer an urgent call.

DISCLAIMER

Any similarity with persons in the above story and any other person living, dead or in between is surely a coincidence.

#HearWord #HearWordSeries

Uchenna Ezenwa Akujobi studied Medicine and Surgery in the University of Port Harcourt. He is a stock trader, a practicing doctor; and writing happens to be one of many things he is very fond of. He is passionate about sharing authentic and useful health information with the public in forms that are very interesting, easy to read and relate to. When not relating with humans he spends time grooming and raising his dogs.

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    Kattey

    August 18, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    Waiting to see the end

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    Ovundah

    August 22, 2017 at 5:51 pm

    Thank you Sir, it will be released soon.

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Going back to the basics.

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By Nimi Stephanie Ekere.

Last year, we were woken up to the news of a student who tried to poison his colleague because she was doing better than him, academically. This was to say the

least, frightening. That for me, set my mind wondering what the home environment of the said student was. If a child in Secondary school could think of something so terrible, it clearly showed that his family, which is the smallest unit of the society was in a wrong state. The reason is that the family forms most of a person’s values, at least at that tender age.

 

Recently, the suicide rate in the country has become so alarmingly high and particularly scary amongst young people. Young people take their lives for the flimsiest reasons. It’s either you hear that they took their lives because they were heartbroken in their relationship, they failed an exam or someone spoke to them badly.

 

In the past, we were known for our resilience and ability to adapt to even the most unfriendly situations, so what suddenly changed?

 

I would like us to look into the family setting and review our parenting styles and strategies. A lot has changed. Yes, I think a lot has changed so much; and this does not mean that our parents were perfect in the past. They made their mistakes but to a very large extent, they did a lot of things right.

 

Many modern day parents are so concerned about pleasing their children that a lot of areas are left unattended to. There seems to be no standards and values which are the bedrock of effective parenting.

 

The twenty first century parent is caught up in the web of an extremely busy schedule in the pursuit of money and when they make it, throw it at the child and fail to invest quality time with their children and lose the opportunity to discover their children and what they are growing up to become.

 

For many of these children, integrity means little or nothing, and the child having nothing to emulate, seeks help from his peers and the television.

 

Nannies have taken over the place of mothers in the lives of these children. And because parents are not always visible, and even if they are visible, they are unavailable, there lies a wide communication breakdown. And if a child cannot talk

or discuss everything with his parents, there usually are deadly alternatives for them.

 

Parents try to compensate for these deficiencies with wonderful vacations, gifts, expensive clothes and shoes and other luxuries. While these are wonderful, they do not take the place of deliberate, intentional and effective parenting.

 

Also, a lot of children are suffering from low self-esteem because of the unrealistic expectations and pressures from their parents. ‘Have you seen Linda’s results?’

Why can’t you come first place like Jonathan?’ This is all the child hears and gradually, his self-esteem completely gets eroded and he starts seeking for validation from external sources. He begins to have envy, hatred and unhealthy competitions as part of his everyday life.

 

This begins to manifest in his behaviour towards others. An example is the case of the seventeen year old boy that was left to drown by his friends because they were jealous of him. There are multiples of examples to buttress the fact that we must go back to the basics.

Parenting must be done right if we want to see this generation of children do better than us. There is a vacuum that must be filled. We must listen to these young ones. We must try to create time for them. Our values must not be thrown out, they must be instilled in our children. We can love our children without necessarily giving them everything they want. There should be discipline

in parenting. Sometimes, giving them all they want is not to their advantage. We must learn to know when to draw the line.

 

Their strengths should be celebrated while their weaknesses worked on. Unhealthy competitions are really unhealthy for them. We must know that every child is unique and is created differently with a special gift to change her world.

 

Prayer is an inevitable tool in effective parenting. Every word of prayer said on our children’s behalf is a seed that will germinate and yield fruits, good fruits. This said, prayers must go hand in hand with hard work as even the Bible admonishes us to intentionally, train up our children in a way that they should go and when they are old, they would not depart from it.

 

Thank you for reading this, I hope to get your feedback.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dr Nimi Stephanie Ekere is a wife, mother and Family Physician. She enjoys writing, reading and attending to her patients.  She is a life coach and teacher, who is passionate about children and young people walking in the right course and path to achieve their full potential.

Her Foundation, Ekom Charity Foundation mentors young people and also cares for the less privileged.

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Sex: The Naked Truth, through my eyes…

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By Excel Agoziem.

So I got to know Dr. Ovundah Nyeche on Facebook. I always found myself reading his beautiful posts. So, after he published Sex, the Naked Truth, I got an autographed copy directly from him and had an amazing read.

This book carries so much of Dr’s God-given wisdom, being a balanced combination of God’s standard for sexual relations, embedded in stories and actual life experiences.

While I initially thought it had teenagers as target audience, when I began reading, I found that I needed it as much, (everyone does) and even parents as well, for the sake of their children.

Sex, the Naked Truth, first teaches that it is God who made sex and all kinds of pleasures, so just as a manufacturer has his user manuals of everything invented by him, so God has His own guidelines on what He made. Yea, of course He made sex.

This book will open your eyes to various truths and expose certain repercussions of not having it God’s way- those consequences you know aren’t all there are, get this book and you will be amazed at what humans expose themselves to, for not having it God’s way.

You will also find different people’s stories shared in it, for your instruction.

Above all, you will learn that you are a priced possession and your body isn’t yours. You will learn how to glorify God with your body.

You will learn that not everyone is being defied, (a lot of people think and say that everyone is), and that just as God had 7,000 uncorrupted prophets in the time Elijah, (Rom 11:4, 1 Kings 19:18) He still has chaste sons and daughters in this age.
You will learn self control.
and the fear of God.

PS: To get this book for yourself, children and friends, just everyone, you can click on the links below.

Or reach the author via 📧 sexthenakedtruth@gmail.com

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Money Matters Part II

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By Olamide Falase.

The Million Dollar Loaf of Bread…

Remember when I told you earlier https://ovundahnyeche.com/2019/01/08/money-matters-part-i/ that there are some boring terms about money that you need to remember?

Let me ask you this question.

Which is more important, how much money you have, or what you can purchase with what you have?

To a Zimbabwean, that question is a “no-brainer”, he’ll probably say, “Of course it is what you can purchase (You see, there was a time a loaf of bread cost Z$35 Million – in case, you were wondering what I wrote, it’s 35 million Zimbabwean Dollars. You don’t believe me? Check this out https://www.jasonhartman.com/price-of-a-loaf-of-bread-jump…/ )

One very vital way of looking at money is to always think of it in terms of “its purchasing power”.

If someone offered you, US$10,000 or N3 Million which would you accept?

Remember that 3 million is a lot more than 10 thousand (in fact, 30 times more) however, a simple exchange rate comparison will have you opting for the US$10,000 precisely because the US$ is a better STORAGE OF VALUE than the Naira.

Of course choosing between the US$ and the Naira is, to most, a simple decision, but imagine if you had to choose between getting N3 Million right now, or N3.5 Million in 2 years’ time (Both amounts are guaranteed).

Now the choosing becomes more interesting, although I suspect that most Nigerians will settle for the N3 Million today, but I am also willing to wager that it is not for reasons that has to do with understanding how money works.

Make I digress small!!

Always remember that no matter how much or little you earn, you are someone’s “gbogbo bigs boy” or “gbogbo bigs gehs”

What this means is, there is ALWAYS something you can set aside from your current earnings and still maintain a standard of living.

It helps to imagine that there is someone, somewhere, right this minute, who may not even live too far away from you, who can subsist on what is left from your earnings after you have set some of it aside as savings.

Trust me, it is not hard to imagine it, and even much more easier to experience.

You just have to make up your mind to do it.

The toughest part is overcoming the false notion that you are as rich as what you wear, drive, eat or live in.

Truth is, you are as rich as what you cannot do without. The fewer the things you cannot do without, the wealthier you are likely going to become.

Saving money wouldn’t make you wealthy, but you cannot become wealthy without developing an attitude of savings..

I had to jump a whole lot of steps in my “money series” to get here, and so, there will likely be many people who wouldn’t understand what on God’s planet I am talking about; for that I apologize profusely.

I just thought I needed to say this to someone who would need the encouragement to develop an attitude of needing less than they earn.

 

Olamide Falase has nearly 18 years industry experience, which spans the Banking, Food Services, Civil Construction and the downstream sector of the Nigerian Oil and Gas industry, most of which has been in management and leadership positions. He presents industry related issues in a relatable format, easy for a broad range of people, not only to understand but to also relate to.

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