Years ago while working in the accident and emergency Unit of busy Government hospital, an elderly woman in admission passed on, she had been sick for some time.
I was breaking the news to the daughters and advising them on the next course of action when I noticed an elderly man trying to get down from an SUV which just drove into the hospital premises.
The ladies also noticed, changed their frown to a pseudo smile and told me not to tell him. “Where is my wife?“, he asked sounding very apprehensive. Your wife is in another ward and I would not want her to be disturbed Sir, even by your daughters. She was of course in the mortuary ward.
Sir are you hypertensive? I asked, yes he said nodding his head filled with fine grey hairs. I would later check his blood pressure which was high and then prescribe drugs for him and tell him to go home. His daughters told me his Pastor and a dear friend will break the news to him.
The reality is that losing one’s relatives or beloved one is very painful. I have had patient relatives who hugged me, who literally cried their eyes out or who were very hostile when this event happened ; I have also had those who were in denial, vehemently refusing to believe their loved ones had taken a walk into eternity.
Back to the crux of the matter.
These days social media thrives on breaking news and being the first to share information; but when it has to do with the demise of someone not too close to you, or someone close to you but not your immediate family member , I think it’s wisdom to pause and wait for direct family members to share the information themselves.
Recently a dear friend lost his relative and there was me in the hospital, playing my little part when his relative was alive. He would break the news on social media days or was it weeks later. It was not my call to break the news or to send him any open condolence on social media, without him first breaking it.
These days people first hear about the death of their loved ones on social media, and many times if they pass on in an accident or had a brutal death you won’t be surprised seeing their gory pictures on social media, shared and posted by people that call themselves “fiends” and “wile wishers”
In another news
Be social media responsible, no be everything wey you suppose share. If you look commot eye, your eye no go blind.
Let’s become humans again, e be like say the human in human being has long being missing.
Seeking for second opinion is not weakness
By Ovundah Nyeche
Pilate wanted to let Jesus go. So he made an appeal to the crowd again. But they kept shouting, “Crucify him! Crucify him!” Pilate spoke to them for the third time. “Why?” he asked. “What wrong has this man done? I have found no reason to have him put to death. So I will just have him whipped and let him go.” But with loud shouts they kept calling for Jesus to be crucified. The people’s shouts won out.
Luke 23:20-23 NIRV
The e-mob, the online offsprings of their ancestors who cancelled Jesus…the template is same…accuse anyone of anything…accuse a man you can’t get of rape and the mob shouts, ‘crucify him’… and willing accusers show up.
Accuse a pastor of rape and killing a girl in his church and the mob shout, bloooooood, blooood we need blood…it is true…that is where he gets his power from…and willing accusers type on social media…many times things not true.
Accuse a business entity of ‘kurukere’…and come all out…cancel them…they are cancelled…accuse a rich man of doing rituals…and the mob shouts burn, destroy, scatter, steal, kill destroy.
Have a heartbreak, get upset, accuse the alleged heartbreaker of ‘Wu Wu not take it’ …flash his or her number online and tell the mob, feed them with blood…shout bloooooood, shout attack and they all go out…with no evidence, no thought, no critical reasoning, no second opinion and they go for blood…and the cycle continues.
Seeking for second opinion is not weakness… patience is not weakness… temperance is not weakness…mercy is not weakness…it seems it is weakness…until you are in front of the mob…a cockroach in the gathering of chickens.
Ponder on these words
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Blue Tongues may spell danger.
By Ovundah Nyeche
The tongue sometimes tells a story…
When you go for a party or an outing and you see people’s tongue blue, it is likely a pointer that drinks are laced with Rohypnol.
Rohypnol is a tranquilizer ( drug used to relieve tension and anxiety) which is 10 times more potent than valium.
It some countries it is used as a sleeping pill.
Rohypnol also is abused as a recreational, or “club” drug, often in conjunction with alcohol to provide a high.
It is used in various forms including; crushing the pills and snorting the powder, sprinkling it on weed and smoking it, dissolving it in a drink or injecting it.
It is called in the streets; roofies, date rape, forget me pill amongst other names.
When drinks are laced with Rohypnol, the person who drinks it may not know as it is odourless and tasteless and because it is a strong sedative and also associated with amnesia the victim will not remember what happened, little wonder it is called forget me pill.
It is one of the commonest cause of surprise pregnancies in young people, especially when the only thing they can remember was that they went to a party or visited someone.
Choose your friends wisely and shine your eyes.
Drugs do not pay.
Stay away from drugs!
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Anger, a ‘D’ short of Danger.
By Ovundah Nyeche
I have seen sweet people turn to incredible hulk with little or no provocation, I have seen people who their anger is like bicycle, ‘e no dey hard to start’…yeah some of them believers too.
I have seen people leave a church program in high spirit, blessed and inspired and boom minutes later fight violently with other people, for almost no reason at all…I have seen people turn red with little or no provocation.
I have seen people have their weddings called off because of misplaced outbursts of anger publicly exposed due to the planning stress. I have seen brethren turn their wives to punching and kicking bags and I have seen wives turn their husbands to punching and scratching bags.
And many time help is closer than many people think.
It is good to pray and fast, make up and make decisions to change, but when it
‘Told in Gath, Proclaimed in the streets of Ashkelon— and the daughters of the Philistines rejoice, and the daughters of the uncircumcised triumph’ that you are an atomic bomb looking for where and on whom to explode, it is vital to seek help quickly.
Fortunately help is available, as you pray and fast, it is not unscriptural to seek medical help…to seek Psychiatric help…to begin cognitive behavioral therapy and medications where necessary.
Mental health issues are not wished away, or watered down by ice cream, a new bag, a gift, a hug or make up sex, alcohol or recreational drugs.
Seek help, before you destroy important pillars in your life.
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