LIE #14: ALL MEN ARE THE SAME.
First of all, I do not know who coined the phrase, “All men are the same.” This erroneous notion has been flying around for ages. Many young men grow up hearing this and feel it is natural for men to cheat, have multiple girlfriends without any of the girls knowing they aren’t his only girlfriend, make promises they do not intend to keep and then date girls only to dump them after sleeping with them.Ironically, many girls grow up having this mindset and making excuses for men.
Sometime ago, while resting in the doctors’ lounge of the hospital I work, a lady said the afore-mentioned phrase. I would have kept quiet and minded my business, but because I knew her personally, I had to address the issue being raised.
I wanted to ask her how many men she had come in contact with, in order to validate her claim. I also wanted to ask her a question based on genetics: “Lady, can you tell me the gene that codes for cheating in men and tell me the exact loci on the chromosome? Also, where is the exact lobe of the brain
that is peculiar to all men that makes them to cheat?” But because I would have caused more confusion than proffer a solution, I decided to alter the question.
I simply asked, “Where do you see motorcycles most in Port
Harcourt?” “Aluu Community, near the University of Port Harcourt,”
was her response. “Beautiful. Do you see motorcycles riding around the
Government Residential Area (GRA)?” “No, Sir,” she responded.
“So, young lady, would it be right to go to Aluu, see motorcycles plying that route and then conclude that motorcycles are the major means of transportation in Rivers State, Nigeria?” “No,” she said. “Okay. Would it also be right to go to the GRA where there is a ban on motorcycles, and conclude that we have no motorcycles in Rivers State?” She replied, “No.”
Before finally returning to what I was doing, I told her, “The issue may simply be that you are in Aluu and all you are seeing are motorcycles. Please come to GRA.”
I have a lot of married friends and I do not know any of them who cheats on his wife. One man, one wife; no side-chicks and no side-chick discussion.
God does not have separate standards of fidelity for men and women. God does not frown at ladies when they engage in sexual immorality and smile on the throne when men do the same. When God said “Flee youthful lusts,” He was not referring to only females.
His standard is the same, so stop hiding behind those wrong stereotypes, like “all men are the same” and “I cannot help myself.”
1 Timothy 4:12 WNT
Let no one think slightingly of you because you are a young man;
but in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, be an example for
your fellow Christians to imitate.
Be a real man; stand firm and be an example for what is right.
© Sex: The Naked Truth, Ovundah Nyeche, Pg 63-65, 2018.
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