By Ovundah Nyeche.
Doctor: Madam good morning, sure you are fine and how is your health?
Patient: I am fine doctor, but my leg, the wound refuses to go, this wound has been here since last year and all treatments have proved useless, even your treatment?
Doctor: Well that was the reason, I came to see you. Is this a conducive time to talk, are you okay with me talking here, and do you need any family member around while I talk?
Patient: Yes, my husband.
Husband enters the scene and sits on a chair brought for him.
Doctor: Madam, we have done everything medically possible to ensure that we save your leg and we have run a couple of tests and our latest test show that the artery supplying your foot is severely compromised and is no longer bringing adequate blood to your foot.
Husband: Doctor, stop speaking in riddles.
Doctor: Having exhausted all regular treatment options, I would strongly advise you to consider an amputation of the limb to prevent further complications.
Husband stands up, pacing about…Wife talks to herself.
Patient and Husband: God forbid, back to sender, evil people will not rejoice over us.
Well it required, several counselling sessions, before the patient accepted to amputate her foot and she is better for it. She is alive and moving on with life and if you do not observe carefully, you would not notice she is on prosthesis.
Many others who refuse even when it is obvious, they are suffering from the complications of having a dead or dangerous limb pay with their lives.
Today, my focus is on singles, in dead and or dangerous relationships, but still dragging the relationship forward by all means.
Courage, you must take a shot of this as you step into 2018. No one wants to live in uncertainty, no one likes being in situations where questions asked cannot be answered. No one wants to live in situations where all things are not figured out.
In a relationship, no one likes to invest time and then find out time and resources were invested in the wind. No one loves to sample, sample and sample and then when it is time to be sampled, they are told the sample is out of stock.
Young lady, young man, as the year winds down, take stock of your relationship. What direction is it heading towards? You cannot be headed towards Port Harcourt and your relationship is heading towards Sokoto and you wishfully think everything will just normalize. You cannot be in a relationship where both of you do not even know what direction it is headed and you both think somehow, everything would fall in place.
You cannot be in a relationship with someone that abuses you emotionally and makes you to feel worthless and useless to an extent the person becomes a pill you must take to feel useful again. You cannot be in a relationship where you are used as a practice punching bag for your partner as he prepares for a future phantom match with Floyd Mayweather.
You cannot be in a relationship with a young man, who is a push and start…He does not take any initiative until you make sure “Newton’s first law of motion” happens to him. Without pushing, and many times nagging with your mouth or waist he cannot start anything. You cannot be in a relationship primarily to win people’s approvals.
You cannot be in a relationship where cheating is explained away either by threat, false beliefs, warped trends or wishfully thinking he or she would get better once they pop the question. You cannot use sex as a weapon to trap any person or force them to commit to you.
You cannot be in a relationship where you are virtually in a competition with myriads of ladies and gentlemen and your primary joy or motivation, is that you want to be the last man or woman standing.
And eeeeeeem, you cannot be in a relationship, where you have lost your peace and all your internal alarm bells are ringing nonstop, even when you have done virtually everything to muffle their sound.
As this year comes to an end, it is a time to be courageous and to make decisions that would be beneficial to you and God in the long run…and some of these decisions would involve an amputation.
Receive wisdom and courage to make next year count…Let it go.
God bless you loads.